Comments on: Burn Out http://radicalvixen.com/blog/2007/04/25/burn-out/ Peace. Porn. Politics. Tue, 22 May 2012 01:02:15 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=1.5 by: Lily http://radicalvixen.com/blog/2007/04/25/burn-out/#comment-52093 Wed, 25 Apr 2007 20:30:35 -0500 http://radicalvixen.com/blog/2007/04/25/burn-out/#comment-52093 Thank you, thank you, thank you for posting this. I've gone through mild burn-out a couple of times, and I've only been on the job two and a half months! And then there was a weekend where I was horribly depressed and couldn't figure out why until I realized that my main regular was indulging in many of the behaviors that prompted me to leave my now-ex-husband, in addition to a whole slew of other behaviors that made me feel lower than dirt. I finally had to stop talking to him. But anyway, my point is that it's so good to hear about what you and Sera go through, to know that I'm not alone in getting frustrated. (((Vixen))) Thank you, thank you, thank you for posting this. I’ve gone through mild burn-out a couple of times, and I’ve only been on the job two and a half months! And then there was a weekend where I was horribly depressed and couldn’t figure out why until I realized that my main regular was indulging in many of the behaviors that prompted me to leave my now-ex-husband, in addition to a whole slew of other behaviors that made me feel lower than dirt. I finally had to stop talking to him. But anyway, my point is that it’s so good to hear about what you and Sera go through, to know that I’m not alone in getting frustrated.

(((Vixen)))

]]> by: Mandy http://radicalvixen.com/blog/2007/04/25/burn-out/#comment-52099 Wed, 25 Apr 2007 21:25:19 -0500 http://radicalvixen.com/blog/2007/04/25/burn-out/#comment-52099 I'm glad you know where you are and what you need to do :) There's a lot of burnout lately - Courtesan Connection just posted about several bloggers stopping or radically changing their focus in sex work. I’m glad you know where you are and what you need to do :)

There’s a lot of burnout lately - Courtesan Connection just posted about several bloggers stopping or radically changing their focus in sex work.

]]> by: Sabrina Morgan http://radicalvixen.com/blog/2007/04/25/burn-out/#comment-52186 Thu, 26 Apr 2007 04:50:29 -0500 http://radicalvixen.com/blog/2007/04/25/burn-out/#comment-52186 You summed it all up. Whenever I go through burnout I take a gig for my vanilla job. PSOing starts looking really good after 2 days. That and remembering to take time off work wonders for me. Burn out rate for IT averages 10 years or less. We're not the only ones. You summed it all up.

Whenever I go through burnout I take a gig for my vanilla job. PSOing starts looking really good after 2 days. That and remembering to take time off work wonders for me.

Burn out rate for IT averages 10 years or less. We’re not the only ones.

]]> by: Vixen http://radicalvixen.com/blog/2007/04/25/burn-out/#comment-52260 Thu, 26 Apr 2007 18:45:35 -0500 http://radicalvixen.com/blog/2007/04/25/burn-out/#comment-52260 Lily-Glad you found the post helpful. It helped me to write it. I've had to let go of a client before. He was a good money maker but the emotional drain was too much for me. Mandy-I wonder if it has something to do with time of year. Doing this job through the winter while having winter blues perhaps? Thanks for mentioning the Courtesan Connection. I hadn't heard of it before and am checking it out now. Sabrina-I think having a vanilla gig is a great idea. You can hop back and forth between camps when the need arises and it helps give you perspective. I try to reason that every job has a burn out rate but then again I think ours has a high one. Lily-Glad you found the post helpful. It helped me to write it. I’ve had to let go of a client before. He was a good money maker but the emotional drain was too much for me.

Mandy-I wonder if it has something to do with time of year. Doing this job through the winter while having winter blues perhaps? Thanks for mentioning the Courtesan Connection. I hadn’t heard of it before and am checking it out now.

Sabrina-I think having a vanilla gig is a great idea. You can hop back and forth between camps when the need arises and it helps give you perspective. I try to reason that every job has a burn out rate but then again I think ours has a high one.

]]> by: Der Whip mit der Quips http://radicalvixen.com/blog/2007/04/25/burn-out/#comment-52387 Fri, 27 Apr 2007 18:33:52 -0500 http://radicalvixen.com/blog/2007/04/25/burn-out/#comment-52387 My sex industry gig is for the <a href="http://quipsandchains.com/" rel="nofollow">Quips &amp; Chains Fetish Blog</a>. I can definitely see burnout in this field. However, I have met more intelligent people, in the sex blog world, than in any other area in which I've worked. Smarts and heresy go hand in hand, it seems. Vixen, everything I've read of yours is great. I like the person you are online. Kudos. Take days off when you need them. Happy and poor are better than fried and loaded. That's how they get ya. ;) My sex industry gig is for the Quips & Chains Fetish Blog. I can definitely see burnout in this field. However, I have met more intelligent people, in the sex blog world, than in any other area in which I’ve worked. Smarts and heresy go hand in hand, it seems. Vixen, everything I’ve read of yours is great. I like the person you are online. Kudos. Take days off when you need them. Happy and poor are better than fried and loaded. That’s how they get ya. ;)

]]> by: outleyer http://radicalvixen.com/blog/2007/04/25/burn-out/#comment-52402 Fri, 27 Apr 2007 20:04:29 -0500 http://radicalvixen.com/blog/2007/04/25/burn-out/#comment-52402 short term vacations or breaks or whatever you want to call them sometimes do the trick I'm feeling ya short term vacations or breaks or whatever you want to call them sometimes do the trick

I’m feeling ya

]]> by: Sera http://radicalvixen.com/blog/2007/04/25/burn-out/#comment-52444 Sat, 28 Apr 2007 07:53:42 -0500 http://radicalvixen.com/blog/2007/04/25/burn-out/#comment-52444 My poor Vixen! I hope you're feeling better since posting this. And yes, yes, I relate--oh, how I relate--especially to your comments about wanting an old caller and then wanting a new caller. Lately, new callers feel like too much fucking work, but then old callers feel like such bores. Can't a new caller with just the right fetish call at just the right time? My poor Vixen! I hope you’re feeling better since posting this.

And yes, yes, I relate–oh, how I relate–especially to your comments about wanting an old caller and then wanting a new caller. Lately, new callers feel like too much fucking work, but then old callers feel like such bores. Can’t a new caller with just the right fetish call at just the right time?

]]> by: Z http://radicalvixen.com/blog/2007/04/25/burn-out/#comment-52526 Sun, 29 Apr 2007 00:37:47 -0500 http://radicalvixen.com/blog/2007/04/25/burn-out/#comment-52526 Damn it, I just lost a long response to this (and no, I DIDN'T pass math)! I feel for you. The good thing about your job is that it allows you flexibility, independence, and the opportunity to engage with other people on a very fundamental level. The bad thing is that no matter how much you try to detach and rationalise, sometimes it will inevitably be overwhelmingly emotionally draining. It doesn't matter how satisfying it is to be able to give other people what they need, it is still a pain in the ass sometimes. It sounds as though you are doing the right things to combat the stress, so I hope you get back on an even keel too. Damn it, I just lost a long response to this (and no, I DIDN’T pass math)!

I feel for you. The good thing about your job is that it allows you flexibility, independence, and the opportunity to engage with other people on a very fundamental level. The bad thing is that no matter how much you try to detach and rationalise, sometimes it will inevitably be overwhelmingly emotionally draining. It doesn’t matter how satisfying it is to be able to give other people what they need, it is still a pain in the ass sometimes.

It sounds as though you are doing the right things to combat the stress, so I hope you get back on an even keel too.

]]> by: Lola http://radicalvixen.com/blog/2007/04/25/burn-out/#comment-52636 Sun, 29 Apr 2007 19:46:06 -0500 http://radicalvixen.com/blog/2007/04/25/burn-out/#comment-52636 I'm going through burn out I think. I started selling with the bodyshop, I am so not doing well. ...ARgh I can't shake it I’m going through burn out I think.
I started selling with the bodyshop, I am so not doing well.
…ARgh I can’t shake it

]]> by: tom paine http://radicalvixen.com/blog/2007/04/25/burn-out/#comment-52782 Tue, 01 May 2007 07:12:32 -0500 http://radicalvixen.com/blog/2007/04/25/burn-out/#comment-52782 Shiiiitttt, I feel burned out at my job, too, and I don't even get to talk about sex. Tired of corporate assholes who think their shit doesn't stink. Take some time off and just relax a bit. And fuck as much as you can. Some real sex might make the sim-sex more fun again. Shiiiitttt, I feel burned out at my job, too, and I don’t even get to talk about sex. Tired of corporate assholes who think their shit doesn’t stink. Take some time off and just relax a bit. And fuck as much as you can. Some real sex might make the sim-sex more fun again.

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