Sometimes people ask me what call was my worst. I respond with “I once had a call that gave me a nightmare”. (I was sure I had blogged about this before but I just searched my archives and it doesn’t seem like I have.)
I had been a PSO for a few years so had already heard plenty of bizarre things. This client though freaked me out. I’ll call him Worst Caller.
The call started out pretty normal. WC was nice enough and it was a standard sex call. Then he turned it into a kidnap/rape fantasy where we kidnapped a neighbor and kept her in the basement. I don’t like doing rape fantasies but they’re easy enough. Typically the rape victim is the guy I’m talking to and he loves being the slut in the end.
WC then changed the fantasy. He started talking about how he wanted to be violent towards the woman. Suddenly he was describing the most disgusting, violent acts. I don’t want to write the details of it but it sounded like a scene from a horror movie.
This maybe lasted five, ten minutes. But if felt much longer. The creepiness factor was amped up by WC’s cheery voice and his moans. He would tell me some violent detail and then in his chipper voice say “oh yeah” before moaning.
I was stunned into silence. My mouth had dropped open and I just sat frozen in place. “This is not happening,” I kept telling myself. It was just too disturbing. I knew I had to stop the call but I couldn’t find my voice.
He was talking about using knives on different parts of the body when I was finally able to speak. It was more like a squeak. WC said, “Oh. You know, you don’t seem that into this.”
“No I’m not,” I said. My voice sounded hoarse though I hadn’t been screaming.
“Well, why don’t you describe giving me a blowjob so I can get off,” WC said.
In a daze I did just that. It was probably a bad fantasy on my part but I felt extremely uncomfortable. WC came and thanked me in his cheery tone.
After the call I did my notes-writing DO NOT TALK TO AGAIN next to his name.
That night I had trouble falling asleep. The call really troubled me. I had had other extreme fantasies but nothing like this one. Even if I don’t understand the fetish I normally can empathize. Not with WC. His fantasy just sickened me.
The nightmare was a version of his fantasy. I woke up in a panic and the typical night sweats. To calm myself I kept saying “it’s not real” over and over. I got up, washed my face and ate a snack to relax. I managed to fall back asleep but felt like shit the next morning.
I updated WC’s notes with “gave me nightmares”. He was the first client that I decided never to talk to again.
WC didn’t call back and I was glad. For the most part I forgot about him. Occasionally when someone would ask about my worse call I would remember WC. Thankfully I didn’t have any more nightmares.
Three years later WC called me. He has a very distinctive voice and I recognized it. Something about it made me tense. Putting him on hold I looked up his name in my notes. Sure enough it was him.
Though I was disgusted by his fantasy I still thought it was his right to have it. But there was no way I was talking to him again. I picked up the phone and told him that we had talked before; he hadn’t remembered.
When I told him I couldn’t do the call WC asked why. I was vague at first, telling him that I found it upsetting. He persisted though and said we could talk about something else. Finally, I was honest. “You’re fantasy gave me nightmares and I don’t think I can handle talking to you again.”
I wasn’t trying to be a bitch although I’m sure it sounded mean. In a little voice WC said “I’m sorry” and hung up. That’s the last I heard of him.
Posted by Vixen as PSO Confessions at 10:18 PM CDT
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From the Guardian:
Ted Haggard, mega-church founder felled by sex scandal, returns to pulpit
“Ted Haggard is back and about to start preaching again. Haggard, once America’s leading evangelical pastor, who was brought down and removed from his own mega-church after admitting to a gay sex scandal, has set up a new ministry and will hold the first service in his new church today.
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Now Haggard says he wants gays and bisexuals to come to his new church, whose first few meetings will be held in the garden of his suburban home. “St James church is for anyone, and I do mean anyone… If you are straight, gay or bisexual, I want to walk through the scriptures with you,” Haggard told a press conference last week to announce his church.
Haggard’s view of homosexuality – and his own actions – appear bound to annoy almost everybody. Many gay rights activists are offended by his view that his actions were caused by child abuse and that it is possible to receive counselling for having same-sex sexual feelings. On the other hand, many evangelicals are still outraged at his past conduct, and will be equally furious at his openly reaching out to gays, whom they believe are sinning with their sexuality.”
Well Haggard certainly annoys me. I can’t imagine people joining his church now. But on the other hand I could never see why they followed him in the first place.
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From Literary Lotus:
Book Review: Some Girls: Former harem girl tells all
“It may be impossible to pick up Jillian Lauren’s new book and not do the proverbial double take: Is this really a true story? Some Girls: My Life in a Harem is indeed a true-life memoir—corroborated with photographs and documents—detailing eighteen months Lauren resided in the harem of Prince Jefri Bolkiah (the Sultan of Brunei’s youngest brother) between age eighteen and twenty.
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Lauren was one of the first Westerners to access the Prince’s (they call him Robin) hedonistic playroom, and the intricacies of this ancient but enduring practice are enthralling. Each night, Lauren and a roomful of women of all ages and nationalities await Robin’s arrival, are asked to sing karaoke, retire to a bedroom, or sit next to him in the favored chair. One of the book’s most fascinating facets is the fierce and complex competition to stay on top and win the spot of Robin’s fourth wife. “The parties were a petri dish,” Lauren explains, “ideal conditions to breed fierce intimacies and fiercer resentments,” which was perhaps what the bored Robin loved most. Despite struggling with weight and self-esteem, Lauren becomes a star student of harem etiquette and strategy, quickly becoming one of Robin’s favorite girlfriends, instantly drunk on the position’s power, jewels and cash.”
This looks like an interesting read.
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From Bound Not Gagged:
“If it happens in Vegas…it’s still illegal” FUNDRAISING DEADLINE June 18
“Are you ready to take Las Vegas by storm with edgy public performance art that they can’t get with a buffet or vacation package in the casinos? Are you ready to tell American tourists on the Vegas strip that indeed, prostitution contrary to popular belief in Las Vegas and in most of the U.S is still illegal? That is the theme of our groundbreaking public performance which will take place on Thursday, July 29 from 8-10pm.
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The arts and entertainment committee of Desiree Alliance 2010 is using KICKSTARTER to raise all of our funding for artists and entertainers included in the conference and all the week’s happenings which include scheduled performances during the conference, the public performance, the closing party and more!”
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“I’d like to do a fantasy about the violent rape of my wife. Is that ok?”
-regular client
Sometimes this work is depressing.
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From this gallery.
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From Seize BP:
Seize BP Week of Action gains momentum
“U.S. Attorney General Eric Holder has announced a “criminal probe” to investigate whether BP “broke any laws.” That completely misses the point! Of course BP broke laws. But what everyone in the country wants to know from the Obama administration is whether the government will defend the interests of the people whose livelihoods have been destroyed and offer any hope of salvaging the environment in the Gulf of Mexico.
A criminal probe will last years. By then, the criminals at BP will have reorganized the company or dissolved it, with BP’s assets handed over to some other big oil conglomerate before BP has to pay out. Its executives will be paid handsomely; the people whose lives it has destroyed will be left to suffer. The government must act now to seize BP’s assets before the company “reorganizes.”
From coast to coast, people are stepping up to the plate and organizing demonstrations for the Seize BP Week of Action in their cities and towns. We will take to the streets from Thursday, June 3 to Thursday, June 10 in cities across the country to demand: Seize BP! The details about upcoming demonstrations are now pouring in. A list of some of the newly announced actions follows this email.”
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Instead of email just click the link above. I’m happy to see some mobilization happening. Will their assets be seized? I doubt it sadly. More likely BP will pay its shareholders handsomely and then block future lawsuits by *cough*bribing*cough* lobbying politicians.
Posted by Vixen as Activism at 11:00 PM CDT
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From Queerty:
CA Sen. Roy Ashburn Voted to Make Your Life Miserable So He Could Hide
“California State Sen. Roy Ashburn, the ex-closeted gay drunk with a history of moving against queer Californians, is finally saying he’s sorry for his voting record. Sorry Roy, not good enough.
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“I’m sorry for that,” he tells the Bakersfield Californian. “In the past, I didn’t want to even vote on a gay rights bill because I didn’t want to bring the spotlight on myself since I had a big secret to keep. Most of the time I would leave the chamber and come back to vote no. I didn’t even know what was in the bills.”
Disgusting. A state lawmaker openly admitting he was willfully ignorant on the bills he was voting on so he could hide his little secret? That he was actively failing his job duties and his responsibility to his constituents so he could hide in the hallways?”
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From SFGate:
Outed senator easing stance against gay rights
“State Sen. Roy Ashburn has begun taking some tentative steps toward backing gay rights, a little less than three months after the Bakersfield Republican was outed after a drunken driving arrest near the Capitol.
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But on Thursday, Ashburn argued for a resolution calling on Congress to repeal the “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy for gays and lesbians serving in the military, voting for the measure that he had opposed twice, most recently last year.
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But Ashburn voted against another measure that would state explicitly in law that people opposed to performing marriages for same-sex couples for religious reasons would not be forced to do so, and that religious organizations would not lose their tax-exempt status if they did not hold such marriages.”
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Well, well. Ashburn’s tone is certainly changing. However, politicians who vote on bills they have no knowledge of should not be in office, period. I originally blogged about Ashburn here.
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Found via World Sex News Daily:
Want to Hike the Alps Naked? Swiss Court Says OK
“The decision of a Swiss court to uphold the right of a man to hike naked across the Alps is exposing, literally, an unusual hobby.
The Swiss man, whose identity has not been disclosed, saw his $87 fine lifted last week by a court in Appenzell, a conservative canton in northeastern Switzerland known for its tasty cheese and stunning mountain landscapes.
The decision was hailed by supporters as a “victory of freedom.” It is also kindling local debate on crisscrossing mountain paths in the nude, putting naked hikers — and all that comes with them — in the spotlight as they enthusiastically fight for the cause.”
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I’ve gone hiking naked in the woods before and love it.
Posted by Vixen as News at 11:57 PM CDT
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From New York City Sex Bloggers Calendar:
And We Have Lift Off
“Way back in February, when we announced that the 2011 calendar was going national and that the funds we raised this year would go to benefit Woodhull Freedom Foundation, June seemed lightyears away. Now, it arrives in about forty-five minutes and since June 1st was the date we promised to announce who was going to be in the calendar, it’s time to do just that.
But first, let me thank all of you, including those who we didn’t have space for, who worked hard to send us images and who wanted to be a part of this very unique and special project. If only there were enough months and space to fit everyone. The choices were hard to make, really hard, but we tried to make the best decisions we could and to fit in as many representations of different sexualities and communities as we could. We found models, or more accurately they found us, who embody the BDSM and leather communities, who show us that sex education is sexy as hell, who proudly represent and create their own porn. We have an erotic model alongside a boot black. A proponent of open marriage. A gay man or two. A straight man. Writers. Bloggers. Sex workers. All these people are so very different but they all have one overwhelming belief that bonds them and makes them ideal for this calendar; they all believe firmly in what Woodhull Freedom Foundation stands for – that sexual freedom is a fundamental human right. And they’re putting their bodies and their faces out there to say it loud and proud.
So without further ado, here’s what you’ve been waiting for, the 2011 NYC Sex Blogger Calendar models are:
Bad Bad Girl
Brandon B
Coy Pink
Dangerous Lilly
Essin’ Em
Gloria Brame
Jiz Lee
Lillith Grey
Luna
Matthew Lawrence
Max Lagos
Mollena Williams
Nina Hartley (Shut up! Yes, you heard it right, Nina Hartley)
Radical Vixen
Sexy Sadie
Sovereign Syre (scroll down to her Back in Black video, you will not be disappointed)
Do you count more than 13? Why yes, you do. Don’t worry, we’ve wracked our brains to come up with creative ways to feature as many people as we could and we believe you’ll be very impressed with the finished product. I mean who can you complain about us bringing you more sexy?”
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I’m so excited to be in next year’s calendar! When I got the news I did a happy dance all around my bedroom.
Posted by Vixen as Activism, Sex Workers at 11:17 PM CDT
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