Comments on: Flunking A Call https://radicalvixen.com/blog/2008/06/29/flunking-a-call/ Peace. Porn. Politics. Fri, 04 Nov 2011 23:28:35 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=1.5 by: madam butterfly https://radicalvixen.com/blog/2008/06/29/flunking-a-call/#comment-113859 Mon, 30 Jun 2008 20:22:07 -0500 https://radicalvixen.com/blog/2008/06/29/flunking-a-call/#comment-113859 It is tough in any customer service or inside sales position when the call goes flat. You end up for hours replaying the call in your head. We all try to provide good service but it is common now for many people to think you can read their minds. Over the years I have discovered my psychic abilities are better on some days than others. I am glad your later calls went well. I have moved on in some ways. But I have clients who at times still think I know what they dare not tell me. It can be like getting water out of a prune to get the details needed to complete the project. I bet that guy is just as uncommunicative at work and home as he was with you on the phone. But his wife is creative by keeping him in chastity she does not have to care about what arouses him or the desires he keeps to himself. I just hate for your sake he cut the call short. Hugs! It is tough in any customer service or inside sales position when the call goes flat. You end up for hours replaying the call in your head. We all try to provide good service but it is common now for many people to think you can read their minds. Over the years I have discovered my psychic abilities are better on some days than others. I am glad your later calls went well. I have moved on in some ways. But I have clients who at times still think I know what they dare not tell me. It can be like getting water out of a prune to get the details needed to complete the project. I bet that guy is just as uncommunicative at work and home as he was with you on the phone. But his wife is creative by keeping him in chastity she does not have to care about what arouses him or the desires he keeps to himself. I just hate for your sake he cut the call short. Hugs!

]]> by: Secondhand Rose https://radicalvixen.com/blog/2008/06/29/flunking-a-call/#comment-114710 Sun, 06 Jul 2008 09:57:16 -0500 https://radicalvixen.com/blog/2008/06/29/flunking-a-call/#comment-114710 I feel the same way about first calls and calls that go poorly. Usually this happens when, as you said, the caller expects you too be intuitive and 'just know' what to do; which in this business isn't very likely. I feel the same way about first calls and calls that go poorly. Usually this happens when, as you said, the caller expects you too be intuitive and ‘just know’ what to do; which in this business isn’t very likely.

]]> by: Lady Sascha https://radicalvixen.com/blog/2008/06/29/flunking-a-call/#comment-114722 Sun, 06 Jul 2008 11:14:22 -0500 https://radicalvixen.com/blog/2008/06/29/flunking-a-call/#comment-114722 I hate calls like this. I think every PSO has had them. While I do know that I am not every man's cup of tea, I do wonder sometimes if this total lack of communication on the caller's part is a sort of passive agressive attempt to top from the bottom. I have had callers to tell Me when I ask them what are they into "Well, You're the Domme, You tell me!" Domination is not one-size-fits-all, it relies on communication between the two parties, whether IRL or on the phone. Sascha I hate calls like this. I think every PSO has had them. While I do know that I am not every man’s cup of tea, I do wonder sometimes if this total lack of communication on the caller’s part is a sort of passive agressive attempt to top from the bottom. I have had callers to tell Me when I ask them what are they into “Well, You’re the Domme, You tell me!” Domination is not one-size-fits-all, it relies on communication between the two parties, whether IRL or on the phone.
Sascha

]]> by: Miss Honey https://radicalvixen.com/blog/2008/06/29/flunking-a-call/#comment-114726 Sun, 06 Jul 2008 12:01:05 -0500 https://radicalvixen.com/blog/2008/06/29/flunking-a-call/#comment-114726 Such an interesting post. Too bad he couldn't help you out a bit and in the end help himself. Such an interesting post. Too bad he couldn’t help you out a bit and in the end help himself.

]]> by: Ellie https://radicalvixen.com/blog/2008/06/29/flunking-a-call/#comment-115049 Tue, 08 Jul 2008 08:50:27 -0500 https://radicalvixen.com/blog/2008/06/29/flunking-a-call/#comment-115049 Ugh, this is painful to read because I've been there before. It also means that when guys are naturally quiet but enjoying themselves I have trouble detecting it. So frustrating. Ugh, this is painful to read because I’ve been there before. It also means that when guys are naturally quiet but enjoying themselves I have trouble detecting it. So frustrating.

]]> by: little man p https://radicalvixen.com/blog/2008/06/29/flunking-a-call/#comment-115269 Wed, 09 Jul 2008 08:40:33 -0500 https://radicalvixen.com/blog/2008/06/29/flunking-a-call/#comment-115269 Your blog post had me remembering a call that i made a number of years back to a PSO that sounded exactly like my sister,.. which as You can imagine was a huge turnoff. i found myself stuttering and embarassed (in a bad way) and pretty confused,.. ending the call in what can only be described as weirdly - in a kind of choppy and broken manner. To this point, perhaps the issue with DC was your voice that threw him. Chemistry is often tough to predict. Your blog post had me remembering a call that i made a number of years back to a PSO that sounded exactly like my sister,.. which as You can imagine was a huge turnoff. i found myself stuttering and embarassed (in a bad way) and pretty confused,.. ending the call in what can only be described as weirdly - in a kind of choppy and broken manner. To this point, perhaps the issue with DC was your voice that threw him. Chemistry is often tough to predict.

]]> by: Heidi Willow https://radicalvixen.com/blog/2008/06/29/flunking-a-call/#comment-115591 Thu, 10 Jul 2008 16:50:07 -0500 https://radicalvixen.com/blog/2008/06/29/flunking-a-call/#comment-115591 It is always inspiring to me to hear I am not alone in being disappointed with a call that falls flat. I always have difficulty starting a call with someone new and it's good to know I am not alone. It is always inspiring to me to hear I am not alone in being disappointed with a call that falls flat. I always have difficulty starting a call with someone new and it’s good to know I am not alone.

]]> by: Skep https://radicalvixen.com/blog/2008/06/29/flunking-a-call/#comment-115709 Fri, 11 Jul 2008 04:40:04 -0500 https://radicalvixen.com/blog/2008/06/29/flunking-a-call/#comment-115709 Not a PSO, but been working on the phone with regular clients for years. Did you consider the possibility that he was just looking to shoot someone down? I know that there are people that get off on making other people feel shitty. Even if that was not the case, you can't connect with all the people all of the time, even if you're the most charming and intelligent and adaptable person on the planet. Not a PSO, but been working on the phone with regular clients for years.

Did you consider the possibility that he was just looking to shoot someone down? I know that there are people that get off on making other people feel shitty.

Even if that was not the case, you can’t connect with all the people all of the time, even if you’re the most charming and intelligent and adaptable person on the planet.

]]> by: Vixen https://radicalvixen.com/blog/2008/06/29/flunking-a-call/#comment-119885 Tue, 29 Jul 2008 22:41:58 -0500 https://radicalvixen.com/blog/2008/06/29/flunking-a-call/#comment-119885 MB-I hear ya. Often I replay a call in my head to critique myself, figuring out what I did well and what I could improve on. SR-Exactly! A kink can turn on one person while disgusting the next. LS-I sometimes wonder that too. It's as if we're supposed to deliver a fantasy that turns us on but it has to match theirs. MH-I agree. The more details they give the better call they'll get. lmp-How interesting. I've had a call where the guy sounded like my father and I was weirded out. You bring up a good point. HW-Thank you. One of the best things that's come out of this blog is connecting and relating to other sex workers. Skep-I did wonder that and thought it could be a possibility. Occasionally I've gotten a call a where it seemed the guy didn't want it to work out. I've wondered if it's because of sexual guilt. On the other hand, maybe it's because of what you said-there are times when I just don't connect with a caller. MB-I hear ya. Often I replay a call in my head to critique myself, figuring out what I did well and what I could improve on.

SR-Exactly! A kink can turn on one person while disgusting the next.

LS-I sometimes wonder that too. It’s as if we’re supposed to deliver a fantasy that turns us on but it has to match theirs.

MH-I agree. The more details they give the better call they’ll get.

lmp-How interesting. I’ve had a call where the guy sounded like my father and I was weirded out. You bring up a good point.

HW-Thank you. One of the best things that’s come out of this blog is connecting and relating to other sex workers.

Skep-I did wonder that and thought it could be a possibility. Occasionally I’ve gotten a call a where it seemed the guy didn’t want it to work out. I’ve wondered if it’s because of sexual guilt. On the other hand, maybe it’s because of what you said-there are times when I just don’t connect with a caller.

]]> by: Busigaparet https://radicalvixen.com/blog/2008/06/29/flunking-a-call/#comment-155512 Sun, 12 Jul 2009 02:38:27 -0500 https://radicalvixen.com/blog/2008/06/29/flunking-a-call/#comment-155512 Interesting post but painful to read. Interesting post but painful to read.

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