“You’ll fuck the pregnant Virgin Mary in the ass so hard it makes the baby Jesus cry.”
-me
The client wanted an extremely blasphemous religious fantasy. I took him there and he loved it.
Posted by Vixen as Quote Book at 10:52 PM CDT
July 15th, 2008
Sometimes I Surprise Myself
July 14th, 2008
Sugasm #140
The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #141? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.
This Week’s Picks
“Are you a sex blogger or a sexy blogger?”
“It builds a community that I am so proud to be part of.”
The J Word
“And while you’re with her, I’ll be with him.”
Transcending moment
”It’s that place between fear and arousal, and they are so very closely related.”
Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank
Editor’s Choice
Chill Pleasure
See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.
Mistress E courtesy of Dark Mistress.
Posted by Vixen as Sugasm at 11:04 PM CDT
July 12th, 2008
Indecent Bacon
Seal Press sent me Sarah Katherine Lewis’ latest book to review, Sex and Bacon.
“It’s said that how we eat is reflective of our appetite in bed. Food and sex: two universal experiences that can easily become addictive and all consuming. You don’t need to look far—The Food Network, billboards, and TV spots, to name just a few—to witness firsthand the explosive combination of food and sex.
In Sex and Bacon, Sarah Katherine Lewis is a seductress whose observations about the interplay between food and sex are unusually delightful, sometimes raunchy, and always absorbing. Sex and Bacon is a unique type of lovefest, and Lewis is not your run-of-the-mill food writer.
A lusty eater who’s spent the better part of her adult life as a sex worker, Lewis is as reckless as she is adventurous. She writes of eating whale and bone marrow as challenges she was incapable of resisting. With chapters that hone in on the categorically simple—fat, sugar, meat—Lewis infuses even the most quotidian meals and food memories with sensual observations and decadence worthy of savoring. Sex and Bacon is exuberant—a celebration that honors the rawness and base needs that are central to our experiences of both food and sex.”
Chapter one’s opening line grabs the attention-”A warm tongue in your ass is like being baby-wiped: an infantile exercise in gentle, soap-free cleaning, more about the idea of boundaryless porn star virtuosity than actual mind-blowing erotic sensation-or so I’ve found, anyway.”
I predict this book will be subtle, occasionally hinting at the author’s desires yet not daring to describe them in detail. ;)
Seriously though, the book looks to be a fun read. Any author that uses the phrase “ass-karma” has got to be good for a few laughs right? I’ll let you know.
Seal Press also sent me her earlier book Indecent.
“Indecent is not your average I-stripped-my-way-through-college memoir. Sarah Katherine Lewis is a veteran of the sex industry who started small—doing lingerie modeling and striptease shows—but for reasons including the desire to earn more money and curiosity about other types of sex work moved into porn, and ultimately into illegal work.
Lewis is smart, self-aware, and bitingly funny. Where other writers in this genre have generally shielded themselves from letting things get too bad or go too far, Lewis comes face-to-face with the unimaginable. Her experiences with customers, whose fetishes and behaviors range from obscene to bizarre to twisted, are often recounted with outrageous and caustic humor. Lewis is a brilliant observer of human nature and has a read on her employers and coworkers that lends unique insight into the seedy underground of the more hardcore sex industry. Lewis is a sex worker by choice. She neither condemns nor condones the work, though she depicts her experiences with a gallows humor that reveals the complexity of professional adult sex work. Indecent offers readers an insider’s account of hard-earned lessons and acute insight gained from over a decade in the trenches of one of America’s most insidious and lucrative industries.”
You should see my nightstand. There’s a sex work book, a book on Paganism and a book on knitting. Looks like my summer reading is packed.
Posted by Vixen as Reviews at 11:32 PM CDT
July 11th, 2008
Sexy Sexy Skirt
July 10th, 2008
Sex Worker Solidarity: Catalina
Sex Worker Profile
I am Catalina. I’m a 36-year-old polyamorous sex kitten who has somehow made a name for herself as a sex expert (and slut). Aside from that, I’m a PR and marketing consultant, a mother, a wife, a professional domme, a fellatrix, a mentor, a writer, a stoner hippie chick, a nerd, a princess, a dork, a whore, a Daddy’s girl, and a wanna-be yogi. My Master is Marky D. Sade.
What kind of sex work are you currently doing?
Aside from my work as a sex(positive) writer, I am also a professional dominatrix, fellatrix, and a fetish model. I have just recently started producing fetish content to open my own Clips Store.
Are you active in sex worker activism? If so, what are you doing?
I don’t consider myself to be politically active, however I do consider myself to be a sex positive person. In a society where women are taught that sex is shameful, I proudly state that I love sex. I take pride in the term “slut,” as someone who likes to fuck.
Also, as far as my work in the sex industry - I don’t feel ashamed to do what I do. My friends know about my work, we talk about it over coffee sometimes as their jaws drop when I tell them about my latest adventures. Nobody in my circle has ever been anything but supportive. Many of my female friends confide in me that they have thought of using their bodies for money, but haven’t due to the taboo of it.
Of course, I am pretty “out” as far as the bigger world is concerned. Not only do I write about some of my clients and adventures on Catalina Loves, I have a blog solely dedicated to my Fetish/FemDom work called Momme Domme: From Professional Momme to Professional Domme.
I do, however, believe that the single most important thing that I do as a sex-positive role model is raising sex-positive daughters. I don’t talk to them about inappropriate things or show them inappropriate images, but I also don’t treat sexuality like it’s a dirty sin. For example, the book I’m reviewing for my blog called, “Getting Off: A Woman’s Guide To Masturbation,” is sitting in the bathroom, accidentally left there on purpose in the hopes that my 14-year-old reads it and learns that masturbation is normal and healthy.
What do you think is the best way to promote solidarity with fellow sex workers?
Tricky Tricky! In my perfect world, I would have a group of local friends who are sex workers. Ideally we could compare notes on clients, the business side of things, and also have a sense of camaraderie. However, in my experience, there is too much competition between the women and it always breaks down into a feud. I try to actually stay to myself in real life, and be as supportive as possible online to those who seek me out.
What project(s) are you working on now?
I write my own personal sex blog at Catalina Loves, my personal journal and opinions at Catalina Says, my Professional Dominatrix/Fetish Model blog at Momme Domme, a weekly sex blog review of my favorite posts called This Week in Kink, and a weekly list of new things to try on Catalina’s Good Things List. I also contribute at Breathplay, Corset and Collar, and Mr. and Mrs. Kink which I write with Marky D. Sade.
I am a featured blogger on Social Kink, a toy reviewer for Vibe Review and Liberator, and a book reviewer for Seal Press. On top of that, I’m writing a book that chronicles my work in the sex industry, as well as editing and writing the foreward to Melvin Moten Jr’s latest book.
Together, Marky D. Sade and I run Quid Pro Quo, a PR and Marketing company that specializes in the fetish market. Our client list includes some of the industry’s top models, photographers, and webmasters.
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Sometimes I think I’m a busy blogger. I have a handful of online projects and there are times I have more than I can handle. Then I interview Catalina, who has so many online projects I don’t know when the woman sleeps, and realize that I’m really not that busy. Her enthusiasm for kink shows in her writings and her photographs and she is a delight to chat with.
I can relate to Catalina’s wish of having a “group of local friends who are sex workers”. While I do have a group of women I occasionally meet up with, I wish I had a weekly coffee night with fellow workers.
Like Catalina most of my networking is done online. I remember when I first found an online forum for PSOs. (Unfortunately, it has long been abandoned due to hacking.) Years ago the forum was full of activity. The online conversations helped me through phases of burn out and helped me become a better PSO. It was a place to bitch about cranky clients and a place to seek advice.
With her husband Mark, she is creating quite the network of kinksters. Though some may not consider this activism I do. There is value in creating connections between kinksters, as there is with connecting sex workers. Catalina makes an excellent point that many of us feud instead of support each other. I’ve had tensions with fellow workers and I’ve seen plenty of drama in the BDSM community. However I believe that both movements are getting stronger. The more we can support each other the stronger we become as a unified group. I certainly feel more connected to fellow sex workers and activists since I began blogging. And I hope these feelings continue to grow.
Sex Worker Solidarity Series
Sex Worker Solidarity: Introduction
Sex Worker Solidarity: Audacia Ray
Sex Worker Solidarity: Dallas From Babeland
Sex Worker Solidarity: Secondhand Rose
Sex Worker Solidarity: Rachel Kramer Bussel
Sex Worker Solidarity: Libertine
Sex Worker Solidarity: Jesse Cox
Sex Worker Solidarity: Amanda Brooks
Sex Worker Solidarity: Gracie
Posted by Vixen as PSO Confessions, Interviews, Sex Workers at 9:55 PM CDT
July 8th, 2008
The Other Woman
“I’m so proud that someone loves me.”
-regular client
He’s cheating on his wife with a new girlfriend and the above quote is about her.
Posted by Vixen as Quote Book at 10:21 PM CDT
July 7th, 2008
Sugasm #139
The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #140? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.
This Week’s Picks
Flunking A Call
“I fell silent again and tried to think. What did he want?”
Revision
“He seemed… perfect. ”
Shaving, revisted.
“I don’t do it for society, for anyone who will or will not be seeing it. I do it for me.”
Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank
Editor’s Choice
Exploitation, objectification and breaking the law…
More Sugasm
Join the Sugasm
See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.
Sandy Summers courtesy of Badgirl’s Hotbox.
Posted by Vixen as Sugasm at 10:48 PM CDT
July 6th, 2008
Toxic Garbage Island
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I was planning on blogging about something completely different. But then I logged into MySpace to work on another of my online projects. A video caught my attention. The next thing I know I’m caught up watching Toxic Garbage Island.
From the show’s description:
“Part and parcel with this was my attitude toward the Pacific Garbage Patch, or as we willfully misidentified it for the duration of our journey, the elusive Garbage Island. All the journalism I’d read about the patch had carefully danced around physical descriptions of the trash, leading myself and the rest of the shooting crew to fanciful visions of a solid, Texas-size barge of discarded Coke bottles and sporting goods.
(snip)
Needless to say this whole journey ended up overturning my expectations about the Garbage Patch, as well as just about every misconception I’ve ever held about the sea, environmentalism, consumption, barfing, knots, pollution, humanity, and myself.”
(Although I do take issue with the “Just kidding, although the trip did lead me to ferret out a group of non-hippie environmentalists ” part of the show’s description. Can people say they support the environment without insulting hippies please? Are there asshole hippies out there that are selfish and counter-productive? Hell yes and they’re called “drainbows”. But every group has assholes in it so this trend to identify as “eco” or “green” while denouncing the entire subculture of hippies needs to stop. /rant)
Wow. This show is some heavy shit. As an activist I already knew our oceans were polluted. But seeing a sample of ocean in a jar that looks like confetti because there was so much plastic in it was pretty shocking.
Should you watch it? Yes though it’s not an easy thing to do. Disheartening yes but vital to know.
Afterwards, I tried to cheer myself up. Of course the earth will survive. Humans may die out but the world will evolve and go on. That only helped so much so I got myself over to I Can Has Cheezburger and looked at some cute kittehs.
Posted by Vixen as Musings at 10:05 PM CDT
July 5th, 2008
When Spam Attacks
Over the last few days I’ve been getting a lot of spam in the comments. I just deleted 287 of them. While I’m working on the problem, if your comment doesn’t show up a few days after you post it please leave another one. It could have gotten lost in the gigantic pile of spam that is currently my “comments to moderate” section. Thanks.
Posted by Vixen as Musings at 11:54 PM CDT
July 4th, 2008
Porn And Guns
What can make a cynical political activist proud to be an American? Porn and guns of course!
From AVN:
Unholy Lust
“The Bible tells us Adam and Eve resided in the most perfect paradise - until sexuality got in the way. In addition to forever branding snakes as vile, contemptuous villains, misreading the biblical creation allegory also does one other thing exceptionally well. It leaves believers with the unshakable notion that nudity - and by implication, sex - is bad, wrong, dirty and something people should engage in only for procreation, not recreation.”
(snip)
“The church has an illustrious history of blaming man’s headlong rush into the fiery pit on some outside force that must be eliminated. In the Dark Ages, the target was pagans, idol worshippers who contributed nothing to the church’s growing coffers.”
While not a mind blowing article I still found it an interesting read. As a Pagan I always appreciate when people make note of why the Church turned against us “heathens”. I’ll admit I’m a sucker for religious porn and will especially take good nun porn any day.
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A victory went down recently for the 2nd Amendment that I totally forgot to blog about.
From CBS:
Supreme Court Shoots Down D.C. Gun Ban
“The Supreme Court ruled Thursday that Americans have a right to own guns for self-defense and hunting, the justices’ first major pronouncement on gun rights in U.S. history.
The court’s 5-4 ruling struck down the District of Columbia’s 32-year-old ban on handguns as incompatible with gun rights under the Second Amendment. The decision went further than even the Bush administration wanted, but probably leaves most firearms laws intact. ”
(snip)
“Gun rights supporters hailed the decision. “I consider this the opening salvo in a step-by-step process of providing relief for law-abiding Americans everywhere that have been deprived of this freedom,” said Wayne LaPierre, executive vice president of the National Rifle Association. ”
The text of the District of Columbia Et Al. v. Heller case can be read here.
I may be a hippie peace activist but I love my guns too.
July 2nd, 2008
Fishnets And Heels
July 1st, 2008
Not Sexy
“We’re going to use your stool as lubrication for my penis.”
-new client
Posted by Vixen as Quote Book at 11:36 PM CDT