The best of this weeks blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #78? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.
This Week’s Picks
Coming without you (smart-girls.blogspot.com…)
“They make me cry out, but it’s more of a whimper than the kind of sound that makes your next-door neighbor bang on the wall.”
Keyword erotica (kislee.naughtyblog.net…)
“I lifted her hips to get access to my zipper.”
Worth Waiting For Part 1 (deliciously-naughty.typepad.com…)
“She and I abandoned our panties, I ditched my shoes, and we relieved Sexyhusband of all his clothes.”
Mr. Sugasm Himself
Rewriting Fleshbot’s Tagline (sugarbank.com…)
Editor’s Choice
Potential Security Problem with Google Mail (viviane212.blogspot.com…)
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It’s almost the end of this year’s TV Turnoff Week. How did you do? If you hadn’t heard about this activist holiday no worries. It can be celebrated whenever and however you like. Clearly I didn’t give up my laptop or cell phone for a week. But I did turn off my computer more than usual to focus on knitting and hiking this week. I gave up tv in 1998 and haven’t regretted it once. I read more, consume less and live a more active life because I am not stuck in front of a tv for hours on end. If you don’t want to give up tv entirely you don’t have to but why not try a little experiment:
From TV Turnoff:
“The idea is simple: take your TV, your DVD player, your video iPod, your XBOX 360, your laptop, your PSP, and say goodbye to them all for seven days. Simple, but not at all easy. Like millions of others before you, you’ll be shocked at just how difficult – yet also how life-changing – a week spent unplugged can really be.
But there’s a lot more to TV Turnoff Week than shaking up your relationship with passive entertainment. It’s all about saying no to being bombarded with unwelcome and unhealthy commercial messages. It’s about saying no to unfettered corporate media concentration and to the democratic deficit that results. And it’s about challenging the heavily distorted reflection of the world that we see on the screen, a reflection that is keeping us ill-informed and unaware of the very real political and environmental crises that we all currently face.”
Posted by Vixen as Activism at 11:57 PM CDT
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I know this isn’t the most political issue out there. But still, don’t let them mess with chocolate people. That’s just wrong.
From the Washington Post:
Chocolate Purists Alarmed by Proposal To Fudge Standards
“Rarely do documents making their way through federal agencies cause chocolate lovers to totally melt down. Then came Appendix C.
Accompanying a 35-page petition signed by a diverse set of culinary groups — juice producers, meat canners and the chocolate lobby — the appendix charts proposed changes to food standard definitions set by the Food and Drug Administration, including this one: “use a vegetable fat in place of another vegetable fat named in the standard (e.g., cacao fat).”
Chocolate lovers read that as a direct assault on their palates. That’s because the current FDA standard for chocolate says it must contain cacao fat — a.k.a. cocoa butter — and this proposal would make it possible to call something chocolate even if it had vegetable oil instead of that defining ingredient. Whoppers malted milk balls, for instance, do not have cocoa butter.”
Want to tell the FDA to keep their grubby fingers off the chocolate goodness? Want to learn more? Then check out the website Don’t Mess With Our Chocolate.
Posted by Vixen as News, Activism at 11:46 PM CDT
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“Please take my money.”
-Monotone Man
If only they were all this easy.
Posted by Vixen as Quote Book at 10:09 PM CDT
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The phone rang last night. And rang and rang and rang. I didn’t answer. I couldn’t answer. If I answered it I would cry, or scream or curse. I turned it off and kept it off all night. Why?
Burn out. Right now I feel so burned out with my job. I’ve been doing this for five years and have gotten a case of burn out from time to time. It seems most psos and even most sex workers get it. I’ve had it before while I’ve had this blog but haven’t written about it. Burn out is a contradictory thing. Describing it sounds so paradoxical. Plus, burn out is a negative space to be in. Writing about it is writing about a dark space and I’ve been hesitant to do that. I think it would do me good to write some of my feelings down though. Get things off my chest, get it out of my system. I’m a natural list maker so I’m making a list of my feelings. Some are passing thoughts, some stick in my head for days and depress me.
-I don’t want the phone to ring. Just let me have a chunk of time where the phone doesn’t ring.
-Why won’t the phone ring? I’m here, I’m available why can’t I just get a call? Why do the pervs all call when I’m not available?
-If that pranker calls me one more time I will scream. If he pranks me again that’s it. I’m quitting. Fuck this job, fuck this phone, fuck this asshole.
-No, no, pranks are good. When pranks are up, paid calls go up.
-I’m so burned out on my regulars. I wish a new guy would call so it would be something different and not the same boring ass fantasy that I’ve been repeating over and over. A new guy wouldn’t have all that history of getting on my nerves.
-I can’t handle these new guys. Why can’t one of my regulars call me? Someone who is predictable so I can relax on the call and not have to constantly monitor it?
-This job is so draining! So insanely hard! These men just use me as an emotional punching bag. I don’t get paid enough to do this.
-I am grateful for my job. Thank the Goddess I don’t have to go through life as a Walmart cashier where people treat you like shit and you get paid even shittier. I’m lucky to be in this situation.
-What the fuck is wrong with this sick fuck? How dare he think I really get off to his disgusting fantasy?! No wonder he has to pay women to talk to him-he’s totally fucked up emotionally and sexually. I’m so insulted that he thinks I like _______ (fill in the blank with random taboo fantasy).
-I just want a call where we dive into the fantasy. Don’t ask me about my life, don’t ask me how my day was, I DON’T want to talk to you about my life. Let’s just jump into the fantasy and pretend we both like it so I don’t have to pretend that I relate to you in real life.
-I can’t believe I’m crying on this call. Why did the phone have to ring while I was upset about ________ (fill in the blank with life’s stresses). This is messed up. I shouldn’t be taking calls while I’m upset.
-This is messed up. I can’t believe I’m crying on this call. But in a way it’s relieving. I get to get my emotions out about ________ (fill in the blank with life’s stresses). Uncommon therapy but it works.
-This job has me trapped. I don’t have any marketable skills. What if I lost it? What would I do? I can’t even put this down on a resume. I’m so fucked.
-This job has really opened me up to a lot of possibilities. I’ve jumped out of the cubical hell lifestyle and can make a living being a freelancer doing all sorts of work. I have so much to be thankful for.
-I hate working at home. I’m always at work. I don’t have a separate space. I hate being on call. I can never relax because I never know when the phone will ring.
-I love working at home. It’s so freeing not to be tied to a schedule. I can relax more because I make my own hours.
-I can’t stand this guy. While does he call me so much? I hate him. HATE him! He’s such a draining/disgusting/sicko/lame/mean/arrogant man. Why can’t a normal, nice person call me?
-I’m so thankful guys like this call me. Sure he’s emotionally fucked up but those types make the best callers! He calls me so much because I’m one of the few that can handle him.
Burn out sucks. It’s tiring and makes working the phones difficult. I do enjoy my job most of the time and that’s why I’ve kept doing it all these years. What causes burn out? Take lots of working hours, combined with difficult, demanding callers, sprinkle in some persistent prankers, cancel several fun events to stay home and take calls, simmer for a few months and voila! You have a burned out pso.
How to get over burn out? The best solution I’ve found it to get away from the phone. Take time off and have some fun. I took today off with Mr. Radical. He took me to a yarn store, (it’s therapy for me) and then we went to a nice cafe that had fancy coffee. I didn’t pick up one phone call. It was wonderful. For the next couple of days I’ll get up early, enjoy my morning coffee and knit uninterrupted for a 1/2 hr or so. Then I’ll do some yoga before turning on my phone. Burn out sucks but it is manageable.
Posted by Vixen as PSO Confessions at 6:29 PM CDT
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The best of this weeks blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #77? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.
This Week’s Picks
The Curse of Nude Modeling Strikes Again (http://www.taratainton.com)
“I choose to share images of my nude or near-naked self on this website.”
My Kinkiest Fetish (http://thenakedrhetoricaltruth.blogspot.com)
“There is an erotic frisson about a skillful mindfuck that is almost as good as the real thing.”
Upgrading the Product Line (http://thismuse.blogspot.com)
“But even in the throes of orgasm, part of my brain is ticking off the clock.”
Mr. Sugasm Himself
What Am I Supposed To Do? (http://sugarbank.com)
Editor’s Choice
The Sex Club: Part 1 (http://theprovocateur.wordpress.com)
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Sexy stockings pic courtesy of A Slip of a Girl.
Posted by Vixen as Sugasm at 10:55 PM CDT
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This looks like a yoga pose though I don’t think it’s intentional.
Posted by Vixen as Sexy Sensations at 11:19 PM CDT
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“That’s not so good.”
-a drunk client commenting on my “orgasm”.
Usually my fake orgasms get good reviews.
Posted by Vixen as Quote Book at 11:34 PM CDT
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From Gizmodo:
Hotdoll: The Sex Doll for Dogs
“Is your dog in heat and humping anything it can wrap its horny little legs around? Are you constantly having to pry your promiscuous pooch off the legs of guests, parents and members of your church? Protect your leg from a hump attack by getting Scruffy a Hotdoll. Yes, it’s a sex doll for dogs. It’s shaped like a dog and it’ll allow your tension-filled pet to go to town as much as his little heart desires, humping away until he passes out in exhaustion, leaving a wispy coil of friction-singed dog-fur smoke wafting into the air.”
This is so wacky and terribly funny. Yet my first thought on seeing it was-I can’t wait to tell my puppy sluts about this. One caller in particular that Sera and I both talk to is going to be enthralled.
Posted by Vixen as Musings at 10:41 PM CDT
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This story is one of the funniest I’ve read in awhile. I would think the forced goat marriag would make a better deterrent to other would be goat fuckers than just throwing the guy in jail.
From BBC News:
Sudan man forced to ‘marry’ goat
“A Sudanese man has been forced to take a goat as his “wife”, after he was caught having sex with the animal.
The goat’s owner, Mr Alifi, said he surprised the man with his goat and took him to a council of elders.
They ordered the man, Mr Tombe, to pay a dowry of 15,000 Sudanese dinars ($50) to Mr Alifi.”
Posted by Vixen as News at 10:59 PM CDT
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The best of this weeks blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #76? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.
This Week’s Picks
I make store clerks nervous (http://deliciously-naughty.typepad.com)
“So you told my husband that this month’s Hustler was awesome?”
PSO Anniversary (https://radicalvixen.com/blog)
“I think if most wives/girlfriends knew what their Sos were truly into they’d be grateful I talk to them and they don’t have to deal with it.”
Tighter: the apartment (http://erotischism.blogspot.com)
“She started contractions on my fingers and made those little indescribable sounds that signaled her orgasm.”
Mr. Sugasm Himself
Danni Drops DRM (http://sugarbank.com)
Editor’s Choice
Gay Expectations: When Is It Sex? And Does This Count? (http://perverselypoly.blogspot.com)
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Sexy pic courtesy of Biker’s Balls and Teacher’s Tits.
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Teddy bear found via Feministing.
Imus’s comment was offensive but he’s by far not the only one. This video with a sampling of offensive radio and tv hosts was found via What Really Happened.
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“I don’t know how to react to your lifestyle but it’s certainly interesting.”
-Monotone Man
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This month marks my five year pso anniversary. To celebrate of sorts I’m going to answer some of the most frequent questions I get about my job. Eek, I’m writing myself a starter FAQ! Come, geek out with me readers.
Does your husband know you do this? Is he really ok with you being a sex worker?
Yes, my husband knows and approves. We had been married for several years before I started the job. He is totally cool with it. I’m grateful because I’ve heard other psos complain of significant others getting jealous and that’s never happened.
Mr. Radical has worked in the adult biz himself on the computer end. He often jokes he wishes he could do my job but his voice is too deep. There have been times he’s been annoyed when I’m on a long call and we had planned to go out to eat but that annoys me just the same.
Variation: Your husband lets you do this? (Usually spoken in a judgmental tone)
Yes. And sometimes if I’ve been really good he lets me go outside.
Doesn’t this job effect your sex life?
It does but it can be managed. If Mr. Radical and I want to do anything sexual I have to turn off the phone because if I don’t it will inevitably ring. There are times I usually don’t have sex because I’m likely to be talking about it on the phone. From 10pm to about 2am is my “prime time” so there’s no sex then for the most part. But consider the equivalent-if I worked in an office I wouldn’t normally have sex between 9-5 weekdays.
Occasionally I’ll get a call that grosses me out so much that it kills my sex drive for a couple days. The longer I work the phones the less this happens.
Do your parents know what you do?
Nope. But I know some sex workers whose families do know. If I had a better relationship with my mother I would probably be open about it.
How can I talk dirty on the phone?
For starters the web is your best friend for research. There are loads of companies out there all specializing in different niches and paying different rates.
Think about what you’re comfortable talking about. Mostly vanilla? Stick to the traditional phone services. Experienced in kink? Then steer towards companies that will promote you as kinky. Be warned though: even if you work for a strictly vanilla service you will still get some guys calling that want to fuck their dog and more.
Can you talk my girlfriend into doing this for a living?
This is generally not a good idea. If she is genuinely interested then have her get on pso message boards to check it out. If you’re pressuring her because it makes you feel titillated and she’s not into it give it up.
Do you masturbate on calls?
No. I have a little secret. I knit on calls. I wear a headset so my hands are free. It keeps me from fidgeting and knitting sort of trances me out so I focus more on the call. And I love being about to work and do my favorite hobby at the same time.
Do you ever get turned on during calls?
Yes. Ironically though the clients that most turn me on don’t know it. Some spanking scenarios or sexy voices get me excited. I have a soft spot for guys who are shy with their soft to moderately kinky fantasies. The ones that demand I stroke my pussy and scream out orgasms the whole time have no idea how bored I am.
What’s your favorite type of call?
My favorite calls are when the caller is excited and interactive on a call. When a client participates and gives feedback the call is just alive and fun. You would think all calls would be like this but the reality is far from it. I have several calls where I do the majority of the talking and only get grunts in response. One of my favorite callers likes me to smother him with my ass. That doesn’t turn me on but he’s so friendly and participatory I really enjoy the call. My favorite scenarios are spanking calls and role play.
I also love it when a caller spends a little time talking about his normal life. It makes them more of an individual instead of just being Client #76 with a crossdressing fetish.
Do you consider yourself a whore/prostitute?
No. I consider myself to be a sex worker. I do support prostitutes and advocate the legalization of their profession. I have a lot of respect for them-they work a hell of a lot harder than I do. In addition to thinking myself a sex worker I sometimes use specific titles of telephone dominatrix, prodom or just simply a pso (phone sex operator).
Do you think of your clients as cheating on their significant others when they talk to you?
No, I don’t consider it cheating though this is admittedly a gray area. I think if most wives/girlfriends knew what their Sos were truly into they’d be grateful I talk to them and they don’t have to deal with it.
How long will you talk dirty for a living?
I have no idea. In a way I stumbled into this work but it suites me. Presently it fits my lifestyle.
Why do you blog under Radical Vixen?
My blog is an outlet for me to talk about my real feelings about my job. While I enjoy what I do I have bad days and clients sometimes get on my nerves. I created this space to talk about my true feelings about being a pso. If I blogged under my work name I would always have to be happy, horny and loving every single caller. That’s what I do on the phone and I didn’t’ want to continue it here. I’ve found this blog helps combat burnout. Having an outlet where I can vent really lowers my work stress.
Can I do a phone sex call with you?
Some of my readers have asked me this and I’m very flattered. Thank you! I’m trying to figure out how to set this up. I don’t want to go through my normal job since this is outside work and I “found” the potential client instead of the company. When I come up with a working solution I will let you know.
Posted by Vixen as PSO Confessions at 11:21 PM CDT
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