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April 30th, 2011

A Wretched Mess

Someone recently asked me what was my worst session like. I wrote about my worst call here. But I did a gross in person session that could be in the running for my worst session. Yup, this means no eating while reading during this post. Still with me? Good, let’s jump right in.

The client wanted me to buy the “biggest dildo” I could find. Let’s call him Dildo Guy. Now I’ve been to the Mr. S store in San Francisco and they had one of the biggest dildo I ever saw. I remember wondering how something that large could fit into any human orifice. DG didn’t have much dildo experience so I knew he would balk at something truly gigantic.

Instead I went with an 8″ dildo that had a good width. The width gave the misleading appearance of being longer than it actually was. When I pulled it out during our session DG guessed it to be 11″; I played along.

He had told me that he’d cleaned himself with a Fleet enema before I showed up at the hotel room. This was good news-the last time I used a dildo with him it came out dirty. I always use condoms with my strap on which helps immensely with clean up.

I started off with the smaller dildo but DG was so anxious. He begged for the bigger dildo and since he seemed ready I got it ready. Things seemed to be going fine. But when the dildo was pulled out a stream of liquid shit poured out of his ass onto the hotel bed. The flow was heavy and poured out of him making a pool of shit on the bed. DG had propped himself up on a pillow which also got shat upon.

My gag reflex kicked in and I hurried off to the bathroom to compose myself. When I came out into the main room DG asked me to clean him up. What?! I was there to play Mistress not nurse so I just grabbed him a towel, threw it over the shit puddle and walked away again.

Why did this happen? I presume he didn’t fully expel the enema. Normally I encourage clients to clean themselves before seeing a Mistress for a strap on session. With DG I suggested he skip the enema next time.

DG mopped up the bed with a towel and then made his way to the bathroom to clean himself up. The hotel room stank horribly. Several towels were stained as was the pillow and bed comforter. I cranked the fan and cracked a window although it didn’t help much. Gods did that room stink.

Thankfully the hotel was in his name. At the end of the session DG asked if housekeeping would notice the stain on the bed and towels. I encouraged him to tip them on the nightstand. I hope he did.

Posted by Vixen as PSO Confessions at 11:52 PM CDT

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April 26th, 2011

More Bubble Chair

More Bubble Chair

From this gallery. This chair is so groovy! I’d love one at my place.

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April 24th, 2011

Uh Oh

“I don’t know if my penis works.”
-regular client

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April 23rd, 2011

Sex News Roundup

Sex News Roundup

Found via Neatorama:
The real life models for Classic Pin-Up paintings
“A series of comparisons between the classic pinup girls and photos that have served as models for achieving them;)”

This is a fun gallery. I love behind the scenes pictures like this. It’s interesting to see how the models were turned into paintings.

Found via National Gay and Lesbian Task Force:
Injustice at Every Turn
“Every day, transgender and gender non-conforming people are marginalized because of their gender identity and expression. In The Life Media features the personal stories of Ja’briel and Michelle, two trans women whose experiences highlight the findings of the first comprehensive transgender discrimination study completed by the National Center for Transgender Equality and the National Gay & Lesbian Task Force.”

You can read the report at NGLTF’s site.

There’s some disturbing statistics in the YouTube video. At least this information is getting out there though. Thanks to reader M for sending this in.

Found via Audacia’s Tumblr page:
Getting Away with Murder on Long Island
“A terrible story has been unraveling on Long Island since last December. That’s when the remains of four bodies, disposed of in separate burlap bags 500 feet apart on a scant quarter-mile of beach, were identified as belonging to young women in their 20s who advertised themselves as escorts on Craigslist. Just weeks ago, six more victims were found nearby.

It’s not yet clear whether one killer or multiple killers are responsible. No suspects have surfaced. But that’s not what makes this story really tragic. Some of those 10 people might be alive today if it hadn’t been for the lackluster response of law enforcement and the press coverage of the case — much of it sensationalist and dehumanizing — all because of the first victims’ sex-worker status.”

I was pleasantly surprised to see sex workers interviewed for this article.

From Huffington Post:
Tennessee ‘Don’t Say Gay’ Bill Advances In State Senate
“A bill that would prohibit teachers from discussing homosexuality in the classroom before the ninth grade has advanced in Tennessee’s Senate.

Sponsored by state Sen. Stacey Campfield (R), who unsuccessfully pushed the same measure for six years while serving in the House, the so-called “Don’t Say Gay” bill would make it illegal for educators to discuss any sexual behavior apart from heterosexuality with students in kindergarten up through the eighth grade.”

When I first read this I thought it was an Onion article. Let’s hope this bullshit bill doesn’t get passed.

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April 20th, 2011

Review: Babeland Starburst Tickler

Babeland sent me their Starburst Tickler for review.

Babeland Starburst Tickler

From the product description:
“Tease, stroke and tickle their fancy with this lusciously colored plush red plume feather tickler. The long, 20″ pliable handle offers an easy reach and allows you to vary the stimulation. Pair this with some other playful massage toys like lickable dust, edible paints, or fingertip vibrator. Color may vary.”

This is an good introduction toy. It’s not vanilla but it’s not full on heavy kink either. What you see is what you get here-just a nice, simple feather tickler. The wand is a flexible plastic and the feathers are nice and soft. If you want to try new things with your partner this is a good non-threatening toy. If you’re like me and your toy bag is filled with paddles you’ll likely want to pass on the tickler.

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April 19th, 2011

Remembering Waco

Waco Anniversary

Today is the anniversary of the end of the Waco siege.

If you’re not familiar with the Waco siege you can get a general overview on the Wikipedia page. However, I believe there’s more to the story than presented on that entry.

I’ve long believed that Waco was a flexing of the government’s muscle and that it was a way to suppress opposition. This was a prime example of “protest the government and get punished”. But I just sound like an angsty ranter. Why not listen to Bill Hicks talk about it here?

From Lew Rockwell:
Waco to Libya: 18 Years of Humanitarian Mass Murder
“Long ago, when governments slaughtered the enemy merely for being different and thus subhuman or for occupying desired territory, such crude rationales satisfied the states’ agents and subjects. The modern democratic state, however, employs more sophisticated propaganda when it burns, gasses, shoots, and bombs people including civilians. There is always the excuse of security: the targeted people pose a threat. When this argument seems tenuous, it is well complemented by that most insidious of pretenses: The killing is done for the good of others. It is an act of kindness. The American empire, like the Roman and British before it, inflicts violence to civilize and rescue those in need.


The American belief in benevolent mass murder is not a partisan disposition. Most liberals and conservatives alike take it for granted that, while the federal government’s armed agents sometimes act recklessly or carry out mistaken orders, their acts should never be seen as murder. The assumption is nearly universal that Obama, Bush and Clinton, whatever their partisan opponents might think, are not mass murderers in the mold of Gaddafi, or cult leaders along the lines of Koresh, when in fact our presidents are far worse than either of these men in terms of cultish power as well as sheer body count. All three of these chief executives, and many before them, have commanded the loyalty of far more subordinates willing to die on their orders than Koresh ever could, and have extinguished more innocent lives than Gaddafi ever did.”

The author does an excellent job of typing together the events of Waco to the current Libya situation.

From What Really Happened:
WACO - Who Shot First?
“These two photos, one from a video tape, the other from a film camera, show the first moments of the BATF raid at the Mt. Carmel church. Note the bullet holes in the walls of the church. None of the glass in any of the vehicles the BATF are hiding behind show any signs of being cracked or broken.”

Several photos are analyzed in the above post. Note there are two graphic pictures of burned Waco victims. Nevertheless I think they’re important to see to learn how the government enforces control and obedience.

From The Davidian Massacre by Carol Moore:
Chapter Eleven FBI Tank Attacks Led To Fire And Death
“Surveillance audio tapes indicate that on April 19th Davidians argued about whether the government was trying to kill them. Some believed the FBI would gas for a while and then retreat. However, Davidians refused to be bullied into surrendering to those they believed had brutalized them and would bow only to the word of God.
Fire survivors insist that it was FBI tank attacks which caused the fire that consumed Mount Carmel and killed 76 people. Many believe that the FBI systematically turned Mount Carmel into an inescapable fire trap and kept smashing away at it until they “accidently” started a lethal fire. Some believe the FBI gave that fire a “boost” by shooting pyrotechnic devices into the building. The government claims that a few Branch Davidians spread fuel and lit fires in an act of mass suicide or mass murder. Evidence suggest that the least likely scenario is that Davidians started any of the fires.”

There’s a lot of good info about Waco in the above link.

Posted by Vixen as News at 7:02 PM CDT

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April 16th, 2011

News Roundup

News Roundup

From Spiegel Online:
A Survey of the World’s Radioactive No-Go Zones
“Everyone knows about Chernobyl, Three Mile Island and, now, Fukushima. But what about Semipalatinsk, Palomares and Kyshtym? The world is full of nuclear disaster zones — showing just how dangerous the technology really is.”

This is a great article. I didn’t know about a lot of these places. Scary and creepy. When will the world just embrace solar power?! An earthquake wouldn’t cause such a horrible disaster to a solar power plant.

From Rolling Stone:
The Kill Team: How U.S. Soldiers in Afghanistan Murdered Innocent Civilians
“Early last year, after six hard months soldiering in Afghanistan, a group of American infantrymen reached a momentous decision: It was finally time to kill a haji.

Among the men of Bravo Company, the notion of killing an Afghan civilian had been the subject of countless conversations, during lunchtime chats and late-night bull sessions. For weeks, they had weighed the ethics of bagging “savages” and debated the probability of getting caught. Some of them agonized over the idea; others were gung-ho from the start. But not long after the New Year, as winter descended on the arid plains of Kandahar Province, they agreed to stop talking and actually pull the trigger.


In a break with protocol, the soldiers also took photographs of themselves celebrating their kill. In the photos, Morlock grins and gives a thumbs-up sign as he poses with Mudin’s body. Note that the boy’s right pinky finger appears to have been severed. Staff Sgt. Calvin Gibbs reportedly used a pair of razor-sharp medic’s shears to cut off the finger, which he presented to Holmes as a trophy for killing his first Afghan.”

Whoa. This is was a sobering article. Disgusting to read but very important. Though I couldn’t help but think of the Stanhope bit “Some Troops Are Assholes”. You can watch that here.

From Democracy Now:
Supreme Court Weighs Massive Lawsuit Accusing Retail Giant Wal-Mart for Sexual Discrimination Against Female Workers
“The U.S. Supreme Court has heard arguments on whether a massive class action sexual discrimination lawsuit can move forward against retail giant Wal-Mart. Current and former female employees say they were given lower pay and promoted less often than their male counterparts. We speak with former Wal-Mart manager and plaintiff Stephanie Odle, who says she is pursuing the case to change the company’s corporate culture, and the workers’ attorney Joseph Sellers. “We found in this case evidence of gender stereotypes about women that I have rarely seen,” says Sellers. “They really are a throwback to the world in the 1950s.”"

Yet another reason that Wal-Mart sucks. Bleh.

From Natural News:
Groups, individuals petition NRC to suspend all nuclear reactor licensing in wake of Fukushima disaster
“The Fukushima Daiichi nuclear disaster has sparked an uprising against nuclear energy production due to concerns about its safety. Recently, 45 groups and individuals from across the US banded together to ask that the US Nuclear Regulatory Commission (NRC) cease all licensing for 21 pending nuclear reactor projects in 15 US states, and establish an independent commission to conduct an updated safety analysis of nuclear energy production in light of the ongoing meltdown taking place in Japan.”

Updating safety on nuclear production? Sounds like a no-brainer to me.

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April 14th, 2011

Vix Pix 3

Evening Lounge

Has it really been over a year since my last Vix Pix? So much for good intentions eh? Anyway, I’m resurrecting this category and will try to do them more regularly.

From SWOP:
Sex Worker Groups Respond to Long Island Murders
“Sex Workers Action New York (SWANK) and Sex Workers Outreach Project NYC (SWOP-NYC) are dismayed that four more bodies were discovered on Long Island earlier this week. Police believe that a serial killer is responsible for murdering at least eight people found on a remote Suffolk County beach since December. Reports indicate the murder victims were in the sex trade. As sex workers and allies, SWANK and SWOP-NYC mourn the lives of these individuals and extend our sympathies to their families and communities.

“Sex workers are targeted for violence because of the stigma against what we do,” Dylan Wolf, a SWANK member said, “People think they can do whatever they want to us and they won’t get caught. And because of bad laws, social isolation and discrimination, they get away with it all the time. But like those murdered, we’re not disposable, bad people – we have lives that matter and people that love us. No matter who we are or what we do to make ends meet, we don’t deserve to die – we deserve good lives.””

An excellent statement about a horrible event. These murders need a lot of coverage.

From Miss Maggie Mayhem:
Dear Sex Worker Hater
“So, we meet again. You’re a shape shifter and I feel like I see you everywhere I go. I’ve spotted you on police forms for recovered bodies which had two categories: human and non-human. Guess which category specifically listed prostitutes? I don’t have to tell you, hater, you already know where you think sex workers belong. I’ve heard your testimony at rape trials when the plaintiff’s occupation and clothing were judged more harshly than the actions of their rapist. You laugh at strippers when they believe they have the right not to be exploited with stage fees and racist policies and you think it’s hilarious when there is evidence of a battering behind sparkling eye makeup and feathered eyelashes.


Let’s clear a couple of things up, hater. First and foremost this information was obtained from private medical records. It isn’t a coincidence that one of the major ways that we protect our health and the health of our partners was sabotaged. It’s a clear message: you are not allowed to have both a non-traditional sex life and good health at the same time.”

This is in response to Porn WikiLeaks posting porn performers real names online. Miss Mayhem is spot on in this post and I agree with her.

From Mollena:
Consent [Violated].
“I had someone push through my consent boundary and it fucked me up. But good.


And I am telling this so that other people who have had their consent violated will know they aren’t alone. So that you know that it happens to FAR TOO MANY OF US. And in the hopes that maybe someone who has pushed through someone’s “No.” sees this and gets that it is not OK. That it is abusive. And it has nothing to do with consensual kink.”

This was an incredibly honest and emotionally raw post. Thank you Mollena for sharing this-many people need to hear it.

Found via Tits and Sass:
When we were strippers
“If the New York Live stage was the elegant face of the club, the dressing room was the heart. Any businessman, Japanese tourist, curious married couple or sex-positive feminist could sit in the New York Live audience and lay down singles and plaudits, thinking they were part of the scheme, but the dressing room was sacrosanct. Strippers Only. Our job requirement was to be someone unreal, a hyper-sexualized girl who danced and deferred, but in the dressing room, we could be ourselves, neither distorted by fantasy nor brutalized by judgment. We could fix our makeup, wiggle our toes, count our money, goof around and just talk.”

It’s nice to hear a former sex worker recall her experience with fondness. Though I never stripped I can relate to the sex worker only hang out space. Sex worker space is a place where we can be ourselves and support each other.

Posted by Vixen as Vix Pix at 11:14 PM CDT

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April 11th, 2011

Woods Photo Shoot

For The Girls model in the woods

From this gallery. There’s full nudity in this gallery but I like a cute guy in jeans.

Posted by Vixen as Sexy Sensations at 10:38 PM CDT

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April 8th, 2011

Are You Sure?

“I can smell you through the phone.”
-regular client talking about my pussy

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April 7th, 2011

Sex News Roundup

Sex News Roundup

From Raw Story:
Police link 8 more murders to US serial killer case
“Police said Tuesday they have identified eight more women they believe may have been murdered by a serial killer who terrorized Los Angeles for years known as the “Grim Sleeper.”


Franklin already is accused of killing 10 women in south Los Angeles over more than 20 years, most of them prostitutes. Franklin, who was arrested in his home in Los Angeles on July 7, 2007 has pleaded not guilty in the killings of the 10 women.”

Let’s hope this case gets resolved soon so the families and friends can heal and justice can be served.

From AOL News:
Teacher Resigns After Student Finds Out About Her Porn Star Past
“It’s the history lesson one Missouri teacher hoped she would never have to cover.

St. Louis science teacher Tera Myers stepped down Friday after a student confronted her about her past working as an actress in X-rated films.

The 38-year-old Parkway North High School educator — who starred in pornographic videos in the 1990s under the name Rikki Andersin — has been placed on administrative leave, according to the St. Louis Post-Dispatch.

She will be paid through the rest of the school year but will not teach classes or return to her post next year.”

This is such an upsetting story! Her past is her past. It’s not like she was showing the students clips from her old videos. And where are all the anti-porn protesters? Don’t they advocate women leave the industry and get “respectable” jobs?! They should be supporting her and fighting for her job back. Myers should not have had to step down.

From The Globe and Mail:
Women walk the talk after officer’s offending ‘slut’ remarks
“The trio of 20-something women had never been to a demonstration before. They don’t consider themselves political. They look more suited for an H&M sale than a quasi-feminist uprising.

But when Melissa Dolson, her sister Amanda and Amy Sherwood, heard about Toronto Police Constable Michael Sanguinetti’s comment to a York University class – that women who don’t want to be sexually assaulted should “avoid dressing like sluts” – it stirred them in a way that other headlines rarely do.

And that’s how the three friends ended up on Toronto’s College Street on Sunday, all wearing white T-shirts emblazoned with the logo of the SlutWalk – “Because We’ve Had Enough”– and railing against the police and that particular comment. The demonstration, which started at Queen’s Park and ended in front of police headquarters, featured much outrage, lots of skin, and all walks of life, including activists, Goths, native protesters, artists and a good smattering of men.”

This story also has a video of the protest. I also found another video here.

From Sex Worker Film & Arts Festival
“The San Francisco Sex Workers Film and Arts Festival was established in 1998 to provide a forum for the accomplishments of sex worker film and video makers and to screen works about sex workers and the sex industries from around the world. Since then, we have expanded to become a vibrant venue for performances, workshops, visual arts, political organizing, skills sharing and various other events. The Sex Worker Festival provides an opportunity to recognize and honor prostitutes, dancers, porn performers and other sex workers, who have historically been a dynamic part of arts communities. We encourage diverse participation and diverse perspectives.”

This looks so cool!

From Barnard:
Scholar and Feminist Online
“S&F Online, a triannual, multimedia, peer-reviewed, online-only journal of feminist theories and women’s movements, provides public access to the Barnard Center for Research on Women’s most innovative programming by providing written transcripts, audio and visual recordings, and links to relevant intellectual and social action networks. The journal builds on these programs by publishing related scholarship and other applicable resources. A forum for scholars, activists, and artists whose work articulates the ever-evolving role of feminism in struggles for social justice, S&F Online brings you the latest in cutting-edge theory and practice.”

There’s a lot to read on this site. My favorite piece was Women in the Tattoo Subculture. Thanks to Mandy for sending me this.

From Alternet:
How 19th Century Prostitutes Were Among the Freest, Wealthiest, Most Educated Women of Their Time
“Russell’s new ‘Renegade History of the United States’ recounts how prostitutes won virtually all the freedoms that were denied to women but are now taken for granted.

In the nineteenth century, a woman who owned property, made high wages, had sex outside of marriage, performed or received oral sex, used birth control, consorted with men of other races, danced, drank, or walked alone in public, wore makeup, perfume, or stylish clothes — and was not ashamed — was probably a whore.”

I found this article very interesting. I’m a big fan of alternative histories. The history of prostitution would be an excellent book! This Renegade History one looks good.

Posted by Vixen as News, Sex Workers at 11:27 PM CDT

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April 5th, 2011

Good Vibrations And Planned Parenthood

Good Vibrations And Planned Parenthood

From Good Vibrations:
Good Vibrations Partners With Planned Parenthood
“Good Vibrations, the legendary San Francisco-based retailer, has announced its partnership with Planned Parenthood Shasta Pacific throughout April and May. Its biggest political attack in decades came on February 18, 2011, when the U.S. House of Representatives voted to bar Planned Parenthood health centers from all federal funding. If this dangerous legislation is enacted it will leave millions without basic health care. Good Vibrations is committed to supporting this icon of women’s health and freedom.

Beginning April 1st Good Vibrations’ customers can support Planned Parenthood Shasta Pacific, which serves San Francisco and 16 other northern California counties by making a financial gift at the time of their Good Vibrations purchase in any Good Vibrations retail stores. 100% of your contribution goes to the nonprofit of your choice.


“GiVe” is Good Vibrations’ extensive donation and sponsorship program. For over 30 years Good Vibrations has partnered with hundreds of local and national non-profit organizations donating products, advertising and sponsorship for fundraisers and has provided much needed support for women’s shelters, HIV/AIDS research, art programs, LGBT benefits, breast cancer awareness and much more. Additionally, every several months Good Vibrations partners with a different nonprofit organization and encourages their customers to contribute directly to them at check-out, online and in the stores.”

This is excellent news! Planned Parenthood really needs support right now and kudos to Good Vibrations for doing this. You can find more information here.

Posted by Vixen as Activism at 12:09 PM CDT

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April 1st, 2011

SlutWalk Toronto

SlutWalk Toronto

From SlutWalk Toronto:
“When we first heard about the Toronto Police officer labeling women and people most at risk of sexual assault as “sluts”, we thought about making noise and demanding for more than an apology. We have a constitutional right to a freedom of expression and a freedom of assembly so we’re using it. Putting that into action, we wanted to go right to Toronto Police Service’s front door at 40 College St. with impassioned numbers uniting against these damaging stereotypes. Thus SlutWalk Toronto was born. We are taking our frustration to the streets – literally. Join us for our walk.”

I love the idea of a Slut Walk! The protest is spreading and you can check here for Satellite SlutWalks. Thanks to reader Tinka for sending me this story!

From Excalibur:
Don’t dress like a slut: Toronto cop
“Students and staff at Osgoode Hall Law School are demanding an apology and explanation from the Toronto Police Service after one of their officers suggested women can avoid sexual assault by not dressing like a “slut.”


“I’m appalled by the comment that the police officer has made saying that women should avoid dressing like sluts, and I think it goes to show the inherent misogyny and lack of education,” said Selvasivam, York Federation of Students (YFS) executive.”

Posted by Vixen as Activism at 9:00 PM CDT

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