From Kinky World:
Sex Toy Collecting
“You see, I have a hobby of sorts. Yes, I love reviewing, and yes, I love actually using the sex toy, but my love for my “job” resides in the fact that I just love COLLECTING all of my sex toys. However, I’m not really sure I realized how many toys I had until, while doing these pictures, the boyfriend said “I have to pee”, and I told him to avoid the dildos. That’s an interesting conversation I never thought I’d have.”
This sex toy collection is pretty impressive! Lots of cool pics at the link above.
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From Tits and Sass:
Indigenous People In The Sex Trade Speak Out
“We as Indigenous peoples who have current and/or former life experience in the sex trade and sex industries met on unceeded Coast Salish Territory in Vancouver on Monday April 11th 2011. In a talking circle organized by the Native Youth Sexual Health Network we wish to share the following points about our collective discussion so that we may speak FOR ourselves and life experiences:
-We recognize that many of us have multiple identities and communities that we belong to – some of us take up the title of “sex worker” while others do not see themselves this way. We have a myriad of experiences in the sex trade, everything from violence, coercion, to survival, getting by, empowerment, and everything in between. We want to give voice to these issues so that those who are CURRENTLY involved in sex work and the sex industries feel supported and are the primary place where decisions surrounding our lives are made. We should not be made to feel judged, blamed, or shunned from ANY of the communities we belong to or are coming from. We are the best deciders of what we want our lives to be.”
The Facebook link for this group is here.
Wow, this was a powerful read.
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From Va Va Voom:
History of the Condom
“Condom’s history goes back many centuries. They’ve traditionally been used as contraceptives and over the last 400 years have been found to help prevent sexually transmitted diseases. While religions and politicians have continually tried to hinder condom use, harming untold numbers of people, scientific reasoning has prevailed and made condoms important tools in the fight to stop the AIDS pandemic and have become a significant tool in family planning.”
Here’s one of the entries-”Late 1890’s-Sexual education classes were introduced to public schools for the first time, teaching about venereal diseases and how they were transmitted. They generally taught that abstinence was the only way to avoid sexually transmitted diseases.” How ironic that over a hundred years later many school still teach abstinence only as a way to prevent disease.
They also have a shorter history of the vibrator here.
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From Adele Haze:
Fun spanking boys
“I was lazily browsing the keywords that had brought people to my site, when one search phrase jumped out at me.
“Is it fun spanking boys?” an unknown searcher had asked Google.
If by “boys” we mean “grown consenting men”, then I would like to take a moment to let my eyes glaze over in a lust-filled daydream. How much fun is spanking boys, let me count the ways…”
Adele captures the fun of spanking so well in the above post.
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Has it really been over a year since my last Vix Pix? So much for good intentions eh? Anyway, I’m resurrecting this category and will try to do them more regularly.
From SWOP:
Sex Worker Groups Respond to Long Island Murders
“Sex Workers Action New York (SWANK) and Sex Workers Outreach Project NYC (SWOP-NYC) are dismayed that four more bodies were discovered on Long Island earlier this week. Police believe that a serial killer is responsible for murdering at least eight people found on a remote Suffolk County beach since December. Reports indicate the murder victims were in the sex trade. As sex workers and allies, SWANK and SWOP-NYC mourn the lives of these individuals and extend our sympathies to their families and communities.
“Sex workers are targeted for violence because of the stigma against what we do,” Dylan Wolf, a SWANK member said, “People think they can do whatever they want to us and they won’t get caught. And because of bad laws, social isolation and discrimination, they get away with it all the time. But like those murdered, we’re not disposable, bad people – we have lives that matter and people that love us. No matter who we are or what we do to make ends meet, we don’t deserve to die – we deserve good lives.””
An excellent statement about a horrible event. These murders need a lot of coverage.
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From Miss Maggie Mayhem:
Dear Sex Worker Hater
“So, we meet again. You’re a shape shifter and I feel like I see you everywhere I go. I’ve spotted you on police forms for recovered bodies which had two categories: human and non-human. Guess which category specifically listed prostitutes? I don’t have to tell you, hater, you already know where you think sex workers belong. I’ve heard your testimony at rape trials when the plaintiff’s occupation and clothing were judged more harshly than the actions of their rapist. You laugh at strippers when they believe they have the right not to be exploited with stage fees and racist policies and you think it’s hilarious when there is evidence of a battering behind sparkling eye makeup and feathered eyelashes.
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Let’s clear a couple of things up, hater. First and foremost this information was obtained from private medical records. It isn’t a coincidence that one of the major ways that we protect our health and the health of our partners was sabotaged. It’s a clear message: you are not allowed to have both a non-traditional sex life and good health at the same time.”
This is in response to Porn WikiLeaks posting porn performers real names online. Miss Mayhem is spot on in this post and I agree with her.
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From Mollena:
Consent [Violated].
“I had someone push through my consent boundary and it fucked me up. But good.
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And I am telling this so that other people who have had their consent violated will know they aren’t alone. So that you know that it happens to FAR TOO MANY OF US. And in the hopes that maybe someone who has pushed through someone’s “No.” sees this and gets that it is not OK. That it is abusive. And it has nothing to do with consensual kink.”
This was an incredibly honest and emotionally raw post. Thank you Mollena for sharing this-many people need to hear it.
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Found via Tits and Sass:
When we were strippers
“If the New York Live stage was the elegant face of the club, the dressing room was the heart. Any businessman, Japanese tourist, curious married couple or sex-positive feminist could sit in the New York Live audience and lay down singles and plaudits, thinking they were part of the scheme, but the dressing room was sacrosanct. Strippers Only. Our job requirement was to be someone unreal, a hyper-sexualized girl who danced and deferred, but in the dressing room, we could be ourselves, neither distorted by fantasy nor brutalized by judgment. We could fix our makeup, wiggle our toes, count our money, goof around and just talk.”
It’s nice to hear a former sex worker recall her experience with fondness. Though I never stripped I can relate to the sex worker only hang out space. Sex worker space is a place where we can be ourselves and support each other.
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From On Bended Knee:
shaving
“Each methodical stroke, every second of intense concentration exudes sexiness.”
This is a short piece but it wonderfully captures a sensual moment. It’s funny that this post appeals to me. Normally, I prefer facial hair on men. To me, the hairy a man is the better. I even think back hair is sexy! Still, there is something incredibly sexy about watching a man shave with an old fashioned shave kit.
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From Exploring Intimacy:
Blogging For Choice – My Story
“To question the ability of women to make this choice, this decision, is to question the ability of women to make every basic decision for their own future and the futures of their communities.”
An excellent telling of one woman’s quest to understand abortion.
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From The Spanking Writers:
The phone and the hairbrush
“There was no point making a drama about this.”
A quick, fun story about an over the knee spanking. Giving a spanking over the knee is one of my favorite positions.
Posted by Vixen as Musings, Vix Pix at 10:51 PM CST
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Since the Sugasm seems pretty dead in the water I’ve decided to launch a new series. One of my favorite parts of the Sugasm was picking the Editor’s Choice post. Vix Pix will feature a few posts that have caught my attention over the month. Most will be new posts but not all. Amanda’s post is an older one but it’s new to me so I’m putting it in.
Have a post you think I’d like? Send me an email at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom I can’t guarantee I’ll include you but I’ll certainly check it out. Unlike the Sugasm there’s no requirement that you repost my little list-but feel free to if you like. I just wanted a way to showcase fellow bloggers.
Vix Pix 1
Debauched Domestic Diva had a good rant this month:
December: Month of the Rant
“Tomorrow I’ll begin December with the thought in the back of my mind that I will find myself once again this year somewhere in NYC in the cold night, holding a candle while the names of the sex workers murdered in this past year will be read.”
DD writes about her reactions to Dec. 17th’s IDTEVASW. After attending my first event I can relate.
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Amanda Brooks gives some great conversation tips on her Notebook blog:
Impressing a Client With Conversation
“Although I touch on the value of good conversation in Book 1: The Foundation, I don’t go into a lot of detail on building your conversational skills. There are no “tricks” to good conversation: listen and when you say something – have something to say.
Having something to say might be a problem for some girls. Successfully conversing with someone several years older than yourself and with much more life experience requires that you feed your mind. If you feed your mind a diet of tabloid magazines and TV reality shows, you’re not going to offer much that will interest or entertain your client.”
Much of her advice applies to PSOs as well as escorts. People often think I only talk about sex. But more often than not I’ll chat with my clients before the fantasy begins. I especially like her point about specialized knowledge. I may not know about the latest hip TV show but I know a lot about solar power and splitting wood. Many of my big city clients love to hear about my off grid lifestyle.
The only thing I’d tweak about her article is the news links because I love my liberal, often paranoid, news sources. ; )
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One of Modern Hooker’s last strips for Carnal Nation:
Death Sentence for Marcia
“In May, 2009, Arizona prison inmate Marica Powell was servign a 27 month sentence on prostitution charges when she was left outside in a “holding cage” in the 107 degree Arizona sun without shade or water, and died.”
I love MH’s comic strip. She does an excellent job of stirring up emotion in a small number of panels. This strip was both sad and upsetting. I’m shocked about that police report form and am determined to find a picture of one!
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