Babeland sent me their Velvet Harness to review.
From the product’s description:
“A comfy, affordable vibrating harness will have your kitty purring in no time flat. Slip on the adjustable nylon straps and slide the included sterling bullet vibe into the plush velvet pocket. Strong vibrations will set the harness wearer abuzz (and provide a milder contact buzz for those on the receiving end).”
It’s pretty and soft to the touch. The straps are pretty long. After putting it on they were dangling quite a bit. I cut them to fit and burnt the ends. Since they’re nylon straps the ends melted easily. The specs say this harness fits up to a 60″ waist. It also comes with three rubber o-rings which is nice.
This harness fit my dildos just fine. The bullet vibe is one speed and is a strong buzz. I find the combination of vibrations and strap on play too over stimulating but can see how people into the combo would like this harness.
The downside for me is the velvet material. As a sex worker my knee jerk reaction is-hard to sterilize! Washing velvet after each client would wear it out quickly. But if you’re not using it on a multitude of partners I think it would be ok.
Posted by Vixen as Sex Toys, Reviews at 11:16 PM CDT
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From AOL News:
Chernobyl Cleanup Survivor’s Message for Japan: ‘Run Away as Quickly as Possible’
“Natalia Manzurova, one of the few survivors among those directly involved in the long cleanup of Chernobyl, was a 35-year-old engineer at a nuclear plant in Ozersk, Russia, in April 1986 when she and 13 other scientists were told to report to the wrecked, burning plant in the northern Ukraine.
(snip)
What message do you have for Japan?
Run away as quickly as possible. Don’t wait. Save yourself and don’t rely on the government because the government lies. They don’t want you to know the truth because the nuclear industry is so powerful.”
Wow, this interview racked up my paranoia a notch. Manzurova makes several excellent points though.
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From BBC News:
Libya: Obama defends war, insists US role is limited
“US President Barack Obama has defended the first war launched under his presidency, insisting US military involvement in Libya will be limited.
(snip)
He said that to broaden the aims of the military mission in Libya to overthrowing Col Gadaffi would be a mistake. The US, he said, had gone down that road in Iraq and could not afford the cost in lives, time and money again”
I don’t believe this for a minute. Remember when the Iraq War was only going to last for six months? As long as Libya has oil the US will be involved.
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From MSNBC:
Whistle-blowing witch grounded by TSA
“Here’s a situation for all you aspiring managers: If you were the boss at a U.S. government agency and one of your employees complained that she was afraid of a co-worker’s religious practices, what would you do?
Would it change your decision if the religion were Wicca, and the employee feared her co-worker because she thought she might cast a spell on her?
Here’s how the Transportation Security Administration handled it:
It fired the witch.
(snip)
Immediately after the complaint about casting spells, Smith’s personnel file started to bulge with disciplinary actions. A training coordinator wrote her up for having a negative attitude. A supervisor warned her for not properly checking a boarding pass. She was eight minutes late to work. She was accused of insubordinate behavior for yelling at supervisors when they told her she’d have to work a 16-hour shift because she was the only woman on duty to pat down female passengers.
On April 2, the personnel specialist at Albany, Robert Farrow, sent Johansson an e-mail about Smith. It read, in full, “Hammer Time.” Johansson replied, “Not yet … not enough.””
As a Pagan and witch myself this article is upsetting. Then again, this is the TSA after all-should we really be surprised that they treat their employees as shitty as they do airline passengers?
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From PBS:
Remembering Geraldine Ferraro, First Female Major Ticket VP Candidate
“The former Democratic vice presidential nominee died Saturday, after a long struggle with multiple myeloma. She was a congresswoman from New York when Walter Mondale tapped her as his running mate in 1984. It made her the first female vice presidential candidate on a major party ticket in U.S. history.
In a nationally televised debate in October 1984, she faced then Vice President George H.W. Bush. What began as an exchange about foreign policy ended up being about much more.”
I also think it’s important to point out that it was Ferraro and not Palin who made history as the first female vice presidential candidate.
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From The Independent:
Vatican confirms report of sexual abuse and rape of nuns by priests in 23 countries
“The Catholic Church in Rome made the extraordinary admission yesterday that it is aware priests from at least 23 countries have been sexually abusing nuns.
(snip)
Confidential Vatican reports obtained by the National Catholic Reporter, a weekly magazine in the US, have revealed that members of the Catholic clergy have been exploiting their financial and spiritual authority to gain sexual favours from nuns, particularly those from the Third World who are more likely to be culturally conditioned to be subservient to men.
(snip)
In extreme instances, the priests had made nuns pregnant and then encouraged them to have abortions.”
“In extreme instances”?! The whole thing sounds extreme to me. Shame on the Catholic Church!
Posted by Vixen as News at 9:39 PM CDT
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From this gallery.
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“Your pussy-it does things so me.”
-regular client
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Today is my sixth blogging anniversary. When I started back in 2005 I had no idea how long I’d blog for or if anyone would even read it. But here I am six years later-woot!
Thank you to my blog readers, to those who’ve emailed me and the affiliates who’ve sent me goodies to review and give away. Here’s to another year of Radical Vixen!
Posted by Vixen as Musings at 12:08 PM CDT
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From Tits And Sass:
“Tits and Sass is a group blog run by sex workers who saw a void when it came to witty commentary on the public image of our industry. The ideas promoted about us in the public eye have an impact on the realities of our lives as sex workers every bit as strong as the law, so we’re not letting any more dead hooker or stripper bones jokes pass by without comment.
We come from different backgrounds and locations, work as strippers, porn performers, pro-dommes, prostitutes, and have a love of ripping apart stereotypes. This is our space for calling out pop culture fails, celebrating sex worker culture, and talking shop.
Email us at [email protected] with links, tips, gossip, news stories, praise, and gift card.”
This already looks like a good blog. I’m looking forward to seeing it develop.
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Have you been following the crisis in Japan? Holy fuck! If anything good can come out of this destruction maybe people will see nuclear power is not the answer. Here’s a list of places where you can donate to the Japan Relief effort:
From the Guardian:
How to donate to the Japan relief effort
“Many relief organisations worldwide are collecting money to help fund the relief effort in Japan after the earthquake and tsunami”
CNN Japan Twitter updates here and What Really Happened is updating Japan stories like crazy.
Posted by Vixen as News at 12:13 PM CDT
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In the last couple months I’ve done two more sessions with SC ie Shitty Client. I blogged about him here and here.
For the first session I met SC at his hotel. After I walked in and started unpacking my bag he told me that he brought me something to drink. I look on the table and there is an open bottle of vodka and a glass of it was already poured.
That was a huge red flag. A sex worker should never take a drink from a client unless she 100% trusts him. I’ve only accepted a drink from one client in my nine years as a sex worker. (He’s a client of sex worker friend and he likes to have glasses of wine and a snack tray waiting for us when we show up. She’s been seeing him for over a decade so I consider him very trustworthy.)
But a client like SC? No way would I accept an open container of alcohol from him. Clients could easily slip something into a drink that could fuck a sex worker up. I told him flat out I wouldn’t drink it. Now SC is rude and demanding and there’s no use trying to be subtle with the man. When he asked why I told him it wasn’t safe.
The session went ok for a SC session. He still smoked like a chimney, made demands even though he’s “submissive” and grumbled about everything. He ended up drinking the vodka he brought me.
The second session occurred a few weeks later. On the phone he told me to bring some alcohol for myself. “You’re more fun when you’re drunk,” he told me. Now SC has never seen me drunk. I fake drank during the first session with my friend J.
So I decided to fake drink again. The day before the session I bought a half pint of tequila. SC drinks gin and vodka and just didn’t seem like the type to drink tequila. I poured half the pint out and filled it with water.
When I arrived at SC’s hotel and pulled out the bottle he was elated. I noticed as he made himself a glass of gin that he put lots of ice into the glass. I did the same with my drink. I even added some water from the hotel sink into the glass so it was way diluted. SC didn’t complain or even seem to notice.
During the session I just sipped from my glass or wet my lips with the liquid. I didn’t want to spill it down my neck since I still had to drive home. Instead I strutted around the room and poured out the glass whenever I could. When SC would go to the bathroom I’d pour some of it out in a corner or behind the couch. Whenever I’d go check the hotel fan I’d pour some out on the floor. I know that’s wrecking the carpet but the hotel he stays out is not that great to begin with-the room already stinks and the carpet was stained way before I poured out a drop. Still a little crazy on my part.
But I never got drunk nor did I get even a little tipsy. I also had a glass of water nearby that I was really drinking to ensure I could give several golden showers. At the end of the session SC said it was a lot more fun than the last time we got together. “You’re more fun when you’re drunk,” he told me again. I just smiled and agreed.
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March 3rd was International Sex Worker Rights Day. I’ve been buried in art projects lately and completely forgot to post about it. Naughty sex worker-I know!
Still it’s an important day so here’s some info.
From SWOP:
SWOP-NORCAL: Sex Workers Rights Issues Into the 21st Century
“SWOP-USA is organized to support the rights and address conditions for some of the most marginalized members of our society: women, transgender people and others who work in the sex industries. Many in our communities are greatly affected by poverty, prejudices and incarceration. We are further disenfranchised through racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia and economic oppression. The issues below are of great concern to our members and our communities.
Sex Workers are Part the Community
Whether you see us or not are everywhere. We are sons, daughters, siblings, cousins, spouses and parents. We play an important role in our society and make valuable contributions to our communities and to our families. Our health and safety is a valuable asset to our country. It is in the best interest of all that sex workers enjoy the same rights and responsibilities as other workers and business people.
Sex Workers Fight Against HIV
The Report of the Commission on AIDS in Asia noted that sex workers are part of the solution to preventing the spread of HIV. This year, United Nations Secretary General, Ban Ki-Moon called for an end to discrimination against sex workers noting that prevention is only available to sex workers in countries with laws that protect them. Counterproductive policies must stop, such as condom use are evidence in prostitution cases or the US “Anti-Prostitution Pledge” as a condition for receiving USAID funding. There is much to be gained by working with sex worker and public health organizations to define best practices.
Sex Workers Are Part the Solution
Sex workers and their allies around the world have been in the forefront of the struggle against human trafficking, working together to address force, coercion and other abuses in the sex industry. Sex work done consensually by adults is distinctly different from human trafficking. The conflation of these concepts inhibits our role in contributing solutions to human trafficking and other abuses in our industry. There is a great deal of expertise from our communities defining safe work environments, identifying abusive situations and establishing a culturally appropriate community-based response to these problems.
Decriminalize Prostitution!
Prop K, the San Francisco decriminalization ballot initiative secured 41% of the vote. There is a great deal of support in California for sex worker rights and decriminalization
No more stings! Stop the corruption! Stop the entrapment of prostitutes and their customers!
No more raids! Stop the deportations!
Violence Against Sex Workers Is Not Acceptable
Violence against us is not only tolerated, but even expected by society. Gary Leon Ridgway, the Green River Killer, murdered more than 60 women over a 21-year period with impunity. When he was finally apprehended he was quoted as saying: “I thought I could get away with killing hookers because nobody cares about them… I was doing the cops a favor by cleaning the trash up off the street.” It is clear that labeling sex workers as criminals puts us at odds with law enforcement who should be protecting us and it sends a message to society that sex workers are expendable. Sex workers should not be criminals and violence against us should be classified as hate crime.”
Some history of today can be found here. Village Voice interviewed Sarah Jenny Bleviss co-founder of SWOP in the post It’s International Sex Worker Rights Day: Free the Condoms! And Phoebe’s Story: Why We Need International Sex Workers Rights Day is a good blog post on the day.
Posted by Vixen as Activism, Sex Workers at 1:30 PM CST
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From Constance and Eric:
“Tired of outside forces dictating what sexy is or is not, Constance and Eric joined their talents to pursue a visual journey through the erotic and sensual. A difficult task given that the visual media has all but been saturated in terms of gloss, blatant, sexual imagery. With various projects and their own relationship as tools, they continue to depict incredibly personal acts and moments, often times putting the viewer right in the middle of the emotions experienced.”
Constance and Eric’s photographs seem very surreal to me. I feel like I’m looking at someone’s erotic dream. They also blog here.
Posted by Vixen as Sexy Sensations at 12:48 PM CST
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“Everywhere I go men are interested in me. Like this guy at church is interested in me.”
-regular client
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Momentum Con is less than a month away. Are you going? I’m swamped with art projects myself so won’t be going. It does look like an awesome convention though! The list of presenters, schedule and session details are all updated. They also have a Twitter account for quick updates.
Posted by Vixen as Activism at 1:11 PM CST
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