Shoot ‘em if you got ‘em.

(Damn that’s a sexy gun.)

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Traditionally the week leading up to Christmas is pretty busy. Clients want to get in one more call before the holidays hit. The time between Christmas and New Year’s is normally dead. My phone will only ring a few times a day. This year the week before Christmas was dead. Now I’m slammed. I’ve been on the phone so much my voice is getting tired. I’m not sure why it’s reversed. Maybe the wifeys are all out shopping for after Christmas specials?

Normal blogging to return soon.

Posted by Vixen as PSO Confessions at 10:58 PM CST

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From Daily Mail:
Pope’s exorcist squads will wage war on Satan

“The Pope has ordered his bishops to set up exorcism squads to tackle the rise of Satanism.

Vatican chiefs are concerned at what they see as an increased interest in the occult.”

(snip)

“Father Paolo Scarafoni, who lectures on the Vatican’s exorcism course, said interest in Satanism and the occult has grown as people lost faith with the church.

He added: “People suffer and think that turning to the Devil can help solve their problems. We are being bombarded by requests for exorcisms.”

The Vatican is particularly concerned that young people are being exposed to the influence of Satanic sects through rock music and the Internet.”

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Man, Pope Benedict always looks scary to me. This new Satan Squad seems like such a waste. One of the commenters summed it up best. “Well.. what a brilliant idea. As if there’s nothing wrong in the world.” Exactly! Aren’t there more pressing problems in the world? To say nothing of how people blame Satan instead of taking responsibility for their actions.

Posted by Vixen as News at 10:34 PM CST

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“It sure was fun talking to you last night. The parts that I remember well.”
-regular client who drinks heavily during calls

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I’ve had some readers ask about working during Christmas. Do I do many calls? What sort of clients call during the holidays?

Typically I’ll get a couple calls on Christmas Eve and 1 or 2 on Christmas Day. If the caller is not a long time regular they usually apologize for bothering me during a holiday. I tell them I don’t celebrate and that I already celebrated Winter Solstice several days ago. I hear relief in their voice that I’m available to talk. While I get the occasional married man sneaking away from his family for a quick call, most of the Christmas callers are lonely men.

The majority of them don’t mention the holiday after that initial bit. We’ll jump into the fantasy and their orgasm usually is intense. Afterwards I’ll often hear how much “they needed that”. These clients almost always thank me profusely for talking to them during Christmas.

A few talk about the loneliness of the holidays. They talk about estranged families or how their wives get the kids this year. They blow off steam about how their families pressure them to couple up. Or how their parents are pressuring them to have grandchildren.

These calls are some of my favorites. Though they often tug on my heartstrings I feel like this is true sex counseling. Most of my job is getting the guy off while talking sexy. That’s fine-it’s what I do. But these calls are different. I feel like I really help the caller. I provide common ground when before he thought he was the only one feeling Grinch-like during the holidays. I provide company on what would otherwise be a miserable day. Calls like these validate sex work for me. Sure, a great orgasm or hot fantasy is an accomplishment but it’s the human connection that strikes a deeper chord with me.

Now for full disclosure-I don’t work on Christmas for purely altruistic reasons. Part of it is my passive aggressiveness. I get annoyed that I should stop my normal life for Christmas. Many months ago my friend Sera posted on her (now defunct) blog about heteronormality. She was rightly annoyed at a party when others assumed incorrect beliefs about her sexuality, politics and religion. Could there be something similar when others assume you celebrate Christmas? Christmanormality perhaps?

Really, it’s not a big deal if someone wishes me a Merry Christmas. From a betting standpoint the odds are pretty good that I do celebrate. It’s just after a month of having Christmas seemingly forced upon me whenever I step outside the house-the endless peppy holiday music, the decorations on every conceivable product, tons of dead trees propped up as decorations, the endless questions of how I’m celebrating or visiting family-I get a little edgy.

It’s that edginess that prompts me to work. It’s a harmless rebellion but it makes me feel pretty good. Plus I give solace to some lonely souls. And that is what the holiday spirit is about.

Reality Check Series:
Reality Check: Getting Sick
Reality Check: Lessons Learned From Clients
Reality Check: Eating Food
Reality Check: Handling Long Calls

Posted by Vixen as PSO Confessions at 7:58 PM CST

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While I may not celebrate Christmas, I’m definitely into Christmas porn.

Posted by Vixen as Sexy Sensations at 4:39 PM CST

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The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #112? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Fighting The Dominatrix Stereotype
“She wanted a man for a boyfriend, not a doormat.”

From afar
“Say my name, over and over.”

Steely Dan*
“My body is flexed, and held in place, and the onslaught is relentless.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Pic(k) of the Day

Editor’s Choice
A Brief History of (My) Fucking

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Julie Ordon courtesy of TGP.

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From The Raw Story:
Descendants of Sitting Bull, Crazy Horse break away from US
“The Lakota Indians, who gave the world legendary warriors Sitting Bull and Crazy Horse, have withdrawn from treaties with the United States, leaders said Wednesday.

“We are no longer citizens of the United States of America and all those who live in the five-state area that encompasses our country are free to join us,” long-time Indian rights activist Russell Means told a handful of reporters and a delegation from the Bolivian embassy, gathered in a church in a run-down neighborhood of Washington for a news conference.

A delegation of Lakota leaders delivered a message to the State Department on Monday, announcing they were unilaterally withdrawing from treaties they signed with the federal government of the United States, some of them more than 150 years old.”

(snip)

“Withdrawing from the treaties was entirely legal, Means said.

“This is according to the laws of the United States, specifically article six of the constitution,” which states that treaties are the supreme law of the land, he said.

“It is also within the laws on treaties passed at the Vienna Convention and put into effect by the US and the rest of the international community in 1980. We are legally within our rights to be free and independent,” said Means.”

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I find this fascinating. I would think the Lakota Nation could secede legally. Couldn’t a US state secede too? Mind you I don’t think Kansas is leaving anytime soon.

Though the Lakotas sound like they have the legalities straightened out I wonder how this will play out. Will the US gov’t really let them do this? Reading Howard Zinn leaves me pessimistic. So does the most recent Wounded Knee.

Visit the Lakota Freedom Delegation’s website for more info.

Posted by Vixen as News at 11:03 PM CST

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Merry Yule to those that celebrate. Blessed be.

Posted by Vixen as Musings at 11:07 PM CST

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“My mouth is like a love nest because it’s like a woman has a mother goose laying an egg in her nest.”
-Client said this while talking about oral sex.

Sometimes I have no words to respond to statements like this one. I stayed silent and he kept rambling on. He seemed happy so I must have been doing something right.

Posted by Vixen as Quote Book at 11:12 PM CST

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With all the recent storms leaving many people without power I thought I’d mention solar power. I’ve been on solar for years and absolutely love it. I don’t have power outages or an electricity bill.

There are some misconceptions about solar power though. Many people think only certain states in the US are good for solar. Others think the set up cost is too high. Not so on either count. When Mr. Radical and I started out using solar power we were dirt poor. Bit by bit we built our solar system. First it was just batteries that we charged with our pickup truck. Then we added a small panel. Over the years we added to or replaced parts and now have several panels, an inverter, batteries. We do have a generator for back up power in case we get a week of clouds.

Want to get in on the solar revolution? Here’s some resources:

Wikipedia’s Solar Energy entry
Renewable Energy Policy Project Solar page
American Solar Energy Society
Solar Today
Home Power Magazine
Back Home Magazine

Posted by Vixen as Musings at 9:20 PM CST

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Dallas blogs for Babeland and is a regular Sugasm submitter. Her writings cover a wide subject range from first time anal sex adventures to updates on the Alabama sex toy ban.

I goofed in my first question and Dallas thought I was asking her to define a sex worker. I’m happy for my mistake because she sent me a kick ass definition!

2-3 sentences describing sex worker
Renegades and revolutionaries who insist, with their actions and words, that sex is not a dirty, shameful secret. Sex work of all kinds acknowledges that humans have sex and that they want and need information and services related to sex.

What kind of sex work are you currently doing?
I work as a sex educator at Babeland - a women owned and run sex toy shop. I answer people’s questions about vibrators, anal sex, bdsm, strap-ons and more and help them pick out the right toy for them. I love my work at Babeland because I believe that sex-positive sex toy stores are a completely new environment for most people. Sex and information about sex is not shunned, it is celebrated. Voice and authority is held by the sex educators who are those traditionally without power (lesbians, trans people, poor people, sex workers, etc). Time spent at Babeland has the potential to shift people’s long held norms about gender and sexuality - that is truly powerful.

Are you active in sex worker activism? If so, what are you doing?
I blog for Babeland where I promote positive views of sexuality and of sex workers as much as I can. I have the opportunity to highlight events and publications that support sex workers and by aligning Babeland with sex workers, we have the opportunity to help change other people’s minds.

What do you think is the best way to promote solidarity with fellow sex workers?
Babeland offers discounts to all sex workers - and I hope that all sex workers see Babeland as a safe space staffed by kindred spirits. I also love SPREAD magazine and their events are places of community. Sex workers can be very isolated or working daily with fantastic coworkers - we need to find ways for everyone to come together to support each other.

What project(s) are you working on now?
My biggest project remains the Babeland blog. I am also writing on women’s relationship to pornography both as consumers and producers.

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Dallas’ interview has me thinking about sex worker spaces. She’s right-we need to find ways to come together. Creating spaces where sex workers can relax, let down their guard and talk about work with understanding peers is important. The more spaces we have to meet, the more opportunities we have to help each other.

Meeting for coffee to talk about work is great for all sorts of workers. It’s especially important for sex workers since so many aspects of our work is isolating. My sex worker friends and I agree that we can call each other any time to talk about work. Having a bad session can ruin your day. Some guys are so mean, so vicious that I’ve hung up the phone in tears (and resolve not to let them get to me like that again). But after a good bitch session, the tears are long gone and we’re both laughing from how ludicrous our clients can be.

I love that Babeland is so sex worker friendly. The first time I was in their store I was very accepted and have been on my subsequent visits. I’m mostly out of the closet with what I do. However, I tend to get to know people first before telling them I’m in the sex industry. It is so freeing to disclose one’s work without being judged. And that sex worker discount is touching too.

Back when Latex Geezer was still alive I took him to a Babeland store. He was incredibly closeted in his normal life due to the nature of his career. We were shopping for toys and the worker that day was very helpful. LG turned several shades of red when her and I were discussing the best strap-on to use on him. Afterwards he told me he had never discussed his kink so openly in public before. It was a good experience for him.

If you’re a sex worker and would like to be interviewed (just a few questions, via email) write me at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom

Sex Worker Solidarity Series
Sex Worker Solidarity: Introduction
Sex Worker Solidarity: Audacia Ray

Posted by Vixen as PSO Confessions, Interviews, Sex Workers at 6:56 PM CST

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The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #111? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Sex Worker Solidarity: Audacia Ray
“Visibility on our own terms and the ability to uses our voices (and other mediums of expression) are key to the progress of sex worker’s rights.”

So Many Men, So Few Sluts
“Everyone wants to avoid generalizations about men and women, yet they’re too powerful to ignore.”

This Time
“She had That Look, and despite my earlier fatigue, I knew what was coming.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
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See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

Christmas Tree HNT courtesy of Sweat Shop Sissy.

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International Day To End Violence Against Sex Workers
“December 17th is International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers. This event was created to call attention to hate crimes committed against sex workers all over the globe. Originally thought of by Dr. Annie Sprinkle and started by the Sex Workers Outreach Project USA as a memorial and vigil for the victims of the Green River Killer in Seattle Washington. International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers has empowered workers from over cities around the world to come together and organize against discrimination and remember victims of violence. During the week of December 17th, sex worker rights organizations will be staging actions and vigils to raise awareness about violence that is commonly committed against sex workers. The assault, battery, rape and murder of sex workers must end. Existing laws prevent sex workers from reporting violence. The stigma and discrimination that is perpetuated by the prohibitionist laws has made violence against us acceptable.

Please join with sex workers around the world and stand against criminalization and violence committed against prostitutes.”

Sadly many sex workers deal with violence as part of the job description. Many things need to change. Sex work needs to be univerally accepted as just that-work. The stigmas needs to stop, the discrimination needs to stop. SWOPUSA’s site is great to visit to give you ideas on how to help.

Sex worker blogs give me hope. Through their writings the public gets to see them as a whole person, not just a girl on a pole or a goddess with a whip. I’ll be continuing my Sex Worker Solidarity Series this month and into the next. (Thanks to everyone who’s signed up so far.) If you’d like to participate (you don’t have to be a blogger) please get in touch- radicalvixenatgmaildotcom

Posted by Vixen as News, Sex Workers at 11:46 AM CST

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