It’s my turn to host the FCoSFaA. From Jackie’s Adshead’s beautiful paintings to Ren’s terminology rant (and of course I like my own!) these posts have effected me, made me think more deeply about issues and entertained me. I hope they do the same for you.
Feminist Carnival of Sexual Freedom and Autonomy-#9
Art
Unveiling of the Queyntes
“I hope that more women will be interested in having their “Queynte” painted and I would love to see them all part of an exhibition somewhere for the world to see - because just seeing the seven of them together is a beautiful thing already!”
Interviews
Catalina loves Kink.com CEO Peter Acworth
“In the documentary on BehindKink.com, a lot of the people who work at Kink.com mention that they are inspired to be as creative as they can be and most mention having learned more on the job than they could have ever imagined. Do you see Kink.com as a revolutionary company where people actually like to go to work? Was this part of your plan from the beginning, to create an environment where people were encouraged to grow, think, and use their educations?”
Life & Issues
Controlling Parts Is Controlling The Sum Of Its Parts
“But what’s worse is your mistaken belief that not sharing your beliefs means morally bankruptcy, mental handicap, or some deficiency rendering the person incapable of making “a correct choice” and so you must make it for them.”
Life.Love.Cancer
“Ultimately, the tests came back and they did some minor surgeries. We thought that was it. Just some abnormal cells, nothing to be worried about. Life goes on.
Except it didn’t.”
-This is a ten part series. Scroll to the bottom of the page to read Part 1 and then work your way up.
People I could hang out with
“I just never hear anybody ever talk about the ordeal that painful periods can be — you know, outside of pamphlets from the doctor’s office. And I certainly haven’t see someone validate that experience by making it the primary conflict in a story. But it wasn’t just a story, it was a damn sexy story.”
Politics
Across the Porn Divide
“The current situation, where anti’s and pro’s sit and glower at each other but make no effort to find any common ground, is getting us nowhere, on the issue of pornography, or any other issues, even ones that we may be surprised to find we agree on.”
“The Price of Pleasure”: I am skeptical of claims that this film is honest & nonjudgmental.
“However, when one makes such claims about their work, they must be prepared to defend it, and if one digs deeper into the forces behind “The Price of Pleasure”, they will find just about everyone involved in its production and promotion is anti-pornography, in some cases, stridently so.”
Response to Hugo Schwyzer
“On the other hand, it feels like a back-handed compliment; I mean, why should I give him a cookie and pat him on the head simply for not operating on the assumption that I’m dysfunctional or damaged? I mean, really, that should be a given, a default, a non-issue.”
Porn
Aesthetic Response Porn School
“So once a week or so I’ll be posting an erotic image and ask that we all provide our aesthetic responses to it.”
Sex
Cliched Sex
“The real hazard of cybersex is chat-fucking someone who is working not too far from you, and then drops over to your office late in the evening, as you pore over hastily scribbled meeting minutes, trying desperately to decipher action items that you need to complete before the following morning (that you should have been doing whyen your head was clearer and less tired but instead were having wild and passionate keyboard monkey love.”
Dinner at La Domaine - Reality
“This fantasy of being the centerpiece and entertainment at a dinner party is one that has been a permanent fixture in our fantasy life since i became my Master’s submissive.”
Sex Work
Happy Thoughts on Being a Phonesex Op…
“The funny thing is, like most people, I grew up thinking that adult workers were the dregs of society, with no hope of redemption, objectified for their bodies, etc, etc, etc. I am sure all of you have heard the same sort of litany.
That is not the case with Me.”
Sex Work and Compassion: Self Hating Client
“I’m not sure why I spoke out to SHC. Maybe it was the tone of his voice. There was such a mean, cruel inflection when he insulted himself. Lots of my clients don’t like their kinky sides and I don’t argue with them. There have been times that I’ve tried and either lost clients or caused regulars to not call back for several weeks. They call me to role play their fantasies-not to psychoanalyze them.
But sometimes I feel compelled to say something. Why should people hate their fantasies?I don’t think that’s healthy. For me, part of sex work is helping clients embrace their kinky sides.”
We take a brief moment to rant on about terminology with regards to sex work…
“The terms, when speaking of sex workers, “selling their bodies”/ “selling themselves” need to die in a fire.”
Posted by Vixen as Sexy Sensations, Activism, Sex Workers at 11:30 PM CDT
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From this gallery.
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The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #149? Submit a link to your best post of the week by emailing me directly at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.
This Week’s Picks
People I could hang out with
“But it wasn’t just a story, it was a damn sexy story.”
Red, Hot Ass
“I grunted, but held still.”
Smart Girls Make Better Lovers
“Chicks with brains can make you scream.”
Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank
Editor’s Choice
Sex Blogging and Writing for the Drawer
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“You know I like lubrication.”
-regular client who talks about jerking off in clinical terms
Posted by Vixen as Quote Book at 11:38 PM CDT
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First off, does anyone else find this picture of Bush deeply disturbing? Yes I bitch about the man and make snide comments about him on a daily basis but I’m serious here. There’s something not right with him in the photo. Whoever did his make-up for the cameras did a shitty job. His lips are too pink and the blush is visible on his cheeks. Make-up on anyone in front of press is necessary of course but on men it’s not meant to be noticed.
But there’s something else-that dazed look in the eyes. It reminds me of the look he got after 9/11. Considering how well he handled that situation I’m unnerved.
From Info Wars:
Bush & McCain Blackmail America With Economic Terrorism
“From shying away from even mentioning such terms as “recession,” “unemployment” or “bank failures,” Bush, Bernanke and Paulson are now vigorously invoking the fear of financial meltdown as part of a campaign of economic terror to blackmail the American people into accepting the power-grabbing “bailout,” while John McCain, who last week said the fundamentals of the economy are strong, is now all but threatening to cancel the election should the proposal not receive swift passage.
Bush’s speech last night was a throwback to his March 2003 stump before the invasion of Iraq - replace words like “weapons of mass destruction” with “financial panic” and the tone of the two is not dissimilar.”
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There’s several good links in the above story. One of Mr. Radical’s theories is that the elections are going to be put on indefinite hold and that Bush will reign a third term. Normally I just think he’s being a little too paranoid. But sometimes, like after reading the above story, I think he may be onto something.
To paraphase one of my favorite artists, Utah Phillips, “Times are tough in these waning days of Babylon”.
Posted by Vixen as News at 11:14 PM CDT
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Sweat Shop Sissy liked my interview with Nanette and asked if he could give his own answers to the questions. I said sure. He’s posted his answers over on Best Sex Bloggers in the post Vixen Interviews Sweat Shop Sissy (kinda).
It’s an interesting read and even more interesting to compare his answers to Nanette’s. Thanks to SSS for thinking of the idea!
Posted by Vixen as Interviews at 11:16 PM CDT
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Self Hating Client’s fantasy wasn’t unusual. He had stolen a pair of his girlfriend’s used panties for the call. Initially he was hesitant to tell me. At the beginning of our conversation he’d asked me to dominate him. I asked him what he was into and was told the annoying answer of “anything you want”. That answer means I have to play psychic and guess what a client wants to hear.
He was quiet and seemed bored with the call. Occasionally he said a tired “yes Mistress” and not much else. I tried several different tactics-spanking, crossdressing, humiliation, dildo play.
The dildo struck a chord. The more I described fucking his face the more he responded. When he said “Don’t make me wear my girlfriend’s panties!” there was an excitement in his voice that had been missing before. We focused on the used panties and I could hear him sucking on the fabric. The fantasy turned into him sucking his girlfriend’s cum soaked panties while her lover fucked his ass. SHC moaned through the panties and responded with muffled grunts. After more sucking he shot his cum into the crotch. Then he sucked them once more.
Afterwards SHC said “I’m such a sick freak.” I sensed he was about to hang up.
“No you’re not,” I said quickly. I tried to explain to SHC that panty and forced bi fetishes weren’t so freaky. He countered my argument. “What woman would ever want to date a man who wants to suck panties and by fucked by her lovers?”
I had to admit he had a point. The majority of women wouldn’t-that’s why so many of these men call me. But there are women who get turned on by these kinks. I told him of an ex-roommate whose fantasy was similar to his. She positively swooned over crossdressing big burly men and her dream submissive was a cuckolded sissy.
SHC didn’t believe me so I switched tactics. I told him his fantasy wasn’t hurting anyone so it was ok. He argued that he was hurting his girlfriend because he was stealing her panties. I was quiet, thinking of something to say.
“Look,” he said, “I know I’m fucked up. I know I need to stop this or my girlfriend will find out and dump me. I just need to stop.” Then he hung up.
I’m not sure why I spoke out to SHC. Maybe it was the tone of his voice. There was such a mean, cruel inflection when he insulted himself. Lots of my clients don’t like their kinky sides and I don’t argue with them. There have been times that I’ve tried and either lost clients or caused regulars to not call back for several weeks. They call me to role play their fantasies-not to psychoanalyze them.
But sometimes I feel compelled to say something. Why should people hate their fantasies?I don’t think that’s healthy. For me, part of sex work is helping clients embrace their kinky sides. If it’s safe, sane and consensual then I say go for it. They may not change their ways but at least while we’re in the fantasy they can jump into their fetish, love it and live it for a short while. That’s what I tried to convey to SHC. I hope he got the message.
Sex Work And Compassion Series
Sex Work And Compassion: Panty Tree
Posted by Vixen as PSO Confessions at 11:30 PM CDT
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The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #148? Submit a link to your best post of the week by emailing me directly at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.
This Week’s Picks
Amazing
““You’re lucky I’m not being mean right now.””
Cum Squirt With Me. Confession #131
“Not much research has been done on the female orgasm in general, much less this seemingly new erotic marvel.”
Jealousy, Pornography and the Boundaries of Blogging
“I search to be a sexually free, independent and satisfied woman without the stigma of slut yet with the positive implications of slut.”
Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank
Editor’s Choice
Blue Fantasy, Red Silk Rope
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It’s my turn to host the Feminist Carnival of Sexual Freedom and Autonomy. The RV version will be posted Monday, September 29th. Please send your nominations to radicalvixenatgmaildotcom My inbox is pretty stuffed so please make the subject title of your nomination “Submission for the Feminist Carnival”.
From their site:
“The Feminist Carnival of Sexual Freedom and Autonomy homepage is a collection of links to blogs that will host future editions of this carnival, promoting the sexual rights and freedom of women.
(snip)
This theory of feminism is known more commonly as Sex Positive Feminism, a movement that developed in the 1980s in response to feminists against pornography and prostitution. Sex Positive Feminists (or sex-radical, pro-sex or sexually liberated feminists) believe that women’s sexual freedom is an essential part of women’s autonomy. Any legal or social control or regulation over the sexual self is an attempt to control and regulate women, undermines their freedom and infringes upon their human rights. We are interested in promoting sex workers’ rights, sex education in schools, and we encourage the free expression of sexualities.”
You can learn more about this carnival, and what type of submissions are appropriate, here.
Posted by Vixen as Sexy Sensations, Activism at 11:21 AM CDT
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From Democracy Now:
Charges Dropped Against DN! Journalists–Investigation Needed
“The St. Paul City Attorney’s office announced Friday it will not prosecute Democracy Now! journalists Amy Goodman, Sharif Abdel Kouddous and Nicole Salazar. St. Paul Mayor Chris Coleman also issued a statement Friday that “the city will decline to prosecute misdemeanor charges for presence at an unlawful assembly for journalists arrested during the Republican National Convention.”
Both announcements come two weeks after the conclusion of the Republican National Convention where over 40 journalists were arrested while reporting on protests taking place outside the convention center.
Upon learning of the news, Democracy Now! Host, Amy Goodman said, “It’s good that these false charges have finally been dropped, but we never should have been arrested to begin with. These violent and unlawful arrests disrupted our work and had a chilling effect on the reporting of dissent. Freedom of the press is also about the public’s right to know what is happening on their streets. There needs to be a full investigation of law enforcement activities during the convention.””
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While I’m glad the charges were dropped I agree with Goodman that they never should have been arrested in the first place.
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I just heard about the NYC Sex Bloggers 2009 Calendar Project. From their site:
“Twelve of NYC’s most dynamic literary and sex positive women -writers, sex educators, film makers and ordinary women - have joined together in order to support Audacia Ray’s Sex Work Awareness Project, an organization that trains sex workers in media skills and educates the public about issues that affect people who work in the sex industry. We are some of the New York area’s best and brightest, and we want to see the stigma associated with sex work and workers removed.”
What a groovy idea! You can join in the fun by buying a day:
“We’d like to offer everyone, readers and fellow bloggers, the opportunity to join in the fun and excitement, as well as promote your own blog if you have one. That means for $30 you can buy a day in our calendar and personalize it. If you’re a blogger you can have your blog url on your day, or if you’re a reader, any personal message - you can wish us luck or send a greeting to your favorite blogger or celebrate your birthday or anniversary - up to 80 characters will be printed on your day. That $30 includes one pre-ordered calendar (shipping is extra) with all funds in excess of our expenses going directly to Sex Work Awareness. You can purchase as many additional days as you like depending upon availability for $10 each. Since this is a 2009 calendar, we are on an extremely tight schedule and can only sell days through October 1st, 2008. We hope you will consider this a fun and creative way to promote your blog or just as a way to share in the pleasure and excitement this project has been bringing us in our effort to make our community and world a better, more sex-positive place to live.”
Posted by Vixen as Sexy Sensations at 11:00 AM CDT
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“I love talking to you because I’m all fucked up right now.”
-semi-regular client
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Babeland’s having a super cool contest for it’s 15 year anniversary. Check it out:
Win $1200 Worth of Sex Toys!
It’s Babeland’s Birthday, but You Get the Presents!
You could win a sex toy gift basket worth $1200, simply by signing up for a Babeland newsletter online or in stores. (Already subscribed? Re-submit your email address and you’ll be entered too!)
Grand Prize: Babeland All Stars Gift Basket valued at $1200
In honor of our 15th Anniversary, we’ve rounded up fifteen of the best sex toys (see below) and dubbed them the Babeland All Stars. We’ll be featuring stories and tips about these toys all year long in our stores and our web site. Between now and September 30, 2008, when you sign up for our mailing list you’ll be automatically entered to win the grand prize—a gift basket with all fifteen toys in it—valued at $1200!
Monthly Winners: $50 Babeland Gift Card
We’ll also draw one winner every month from each of our retail cities (Seattle, New York, and Los Angeles), and from Babeland.com, and award the winners a $50 Gift Card!
More details here.
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The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #147? Submit a link to your best post of the week by emailing me directly at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.
This Week’s Picks
Nipple clamps, butt plug, Hitachi - oh my!
“Once the plug is in, I’m going to send you on a little walk.”
I discover transcendental orgasm
“It was peaceful, and like holding on to a live wire at the same time.”
When We Were Kids: Thoughts on BDSM
“The tying was always my favourite part, whether I was the one tied who had to escape, or the one who got to do the tying.”
Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank
Editor’s Choice
Like a Prayer - Part 2
More Sugasm
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See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.
HNT courtesy of Lady Sascha.
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