I talk to a lot of sissies. Originally I planned to write about them for the Fetish Fridays series. Instead one of my blog readers Nanette, who is a sissy, agreed to an interview. She sent me the above picture which is her beloved Barbie plate where all of her sissies releases are deposited and then eaten.
How would you define a sissy? What sort of things do sissies have in common?
Sissies love to be surrounded by femininity — makeup, lipstick, perfume, panties, bras, camisoles, stockings, shoes, magazines like Marie Claire (Cosmopolitan is a bit too forward for this sissy). Nancy Drew mysteries. Hobbies like needlepoint. Dolls and dollhouses. Shopping for clothes. Sissies love feminizing their own bodies — toenail polish, shaving, bubble baths.
The poor sissified boy in the Who’s “I’m a Boy” is not a sissy, though that is one of the all-time great sissy songs.
How do sissies differ from each other?
Two of the main differences are sexual orientation and degree of sissy immersion. Some sissies are gay, some are straight, some have elements of both. Some are sissies primarily for sexual fun and lead a non-sissy life, or attempt to, when not seeking sexual satisfaction. Others would be perfectly content to be sissified 24/7 if society allowed.
Humiliation seems to be a key part of being a sissy. Yet I would define the humiliation as a “fun humiliation”. Would you agree?
Yes, I would agree. For some sissies the actual humiliation is *not* fun, but the anticipation and recollection of it is. Over time, sissies may develop a tolerance for humiliation — what was once humiliating becomes commonplace — and need to raise the degree of humiliation.
What do you consider to be the difference between a sissy and a crossdresser?
I would say that virtually all sissies are crossdressers, but not all crossdressers are sissies. Crossdressers simply feel more comfortable wearing women’s clothes. There isn’t an element of inferiority involved.
I would also say that the humiliation aspect is one thing that differentiates a sissy from a crossdresser. A crossdresser may not feel the need to be humiliated, may just feel most themselves when dressed in feminine attire, but are subservient to no one when dressed. A sissy would often feel aware of being sexually inferior –not successful as a male, but try as she might, not as feminine as a genetic woman.
When did you realize you were a sissy?
I was late to the party. I did not realize I was a sissy until reading letters to Penthouse when I was in college. A couple of the letters about forced feminization and male submission were electric — more exciting than the pictures, for that matter, more exciting than live sexual partners. One in particular I nearly memorized — “Weekend Wenches.”
How has your sissyhood changed over time?
I am more sissified more of the time than I used to be. I used to view it like an affliction that would erupt out of nowhere, need to be satisfied, and then hopefully go away. Now I am more accepting of it. I don’t think anything of coming home from work and changing into a bra or cami and panty — it’s just what I do. Likewise, when I am allowed sissy release, it used to be off with the sissy clothing as soon as possible afterwards. Now, thanks to years of training from some wonderful phone mistresses, having an orgasm doesn’t change anything about my sissiness. I am a sissy before and after.
However, I am still acutely aware that a sissy is not accepted in American society. I would not want to be “outed” at work, or among friends or family not in the scene. Some sissies are more advanced than I in that regard.
What are some myths or misconceptions about sissies that you’ve run into?
The main one would be that most sissies are gay. Those in the sex worker world know this not to be so, but few of those outside the industry know.
A complicating factor is that forced bisexual activity is a common sissy fantasy. Many would say that this just proves that sissies are gay, but that really isn’t the dynamic. I have no interest in having sex with a man, but being “forced” to have sex with a man– or even better, another sissy — under the watchful eye of a dominant female is exciting. It’s the submission to the female that makes it so.
Of course, some sissies are gay. The element of sexual inferiority would still apply, most likely, but probably involves submission to a dominant male rather than a dominant female. (I am speculating here –truly gay sissies are not my long suit.)
Is there anything in particular that you would like people to know about sissies?
Most of us are closeted. It would be great to be able to be a sissy in real life and not have to worry about the consequences, but society is not yet ready for us. We can come out in everyday life only at tremendous personal cost. Many of the battles for acceptance fought by gays in the 1960s and 1970s are still remaining to be fought by sissies braver than I. That’s too bad, because we are really quite harmless and can be a lot of fun.
Thank you for the interview Nanette!
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