Many of my clients borrow their partners’ clothes. Crossdressers will sneak a pair of their wife’s panties out of her drawer. More often than not they’ll cum in them and toss them into the laundry hamper afterward, sure that wifey will never notice. Some will borrow more. Bras, pantyhose, slips and lingerie will be tried on. I’ve had clients put the lingerie back into the dresser, confident their partner won’t notice.
I’m not convinced they’re being so careful. Are they really putting that bra back in the exact right place? Will their girlfriend notice? Will she notice panties in the dirty pile that she didn’t wear? Are they stretching out the lingerie when they wear it? The Fantastic Foot Slut likes to bring his wife’s lingerie to wear for our sessions. The seams stretch when he puts her sheer tank top on. The elastic waistband in her panties cuts into his skin as he struts around for me.
Clients that have a used pantie kink will dig out the dirtiest pair of their girlfriend’s panties out of the hamper. After sucking on and cumming in them they’ll throw them back into the dirty pile. This seems less likely to get them busted-they were already there.
I encourage my clients to get their own clothes. They’ll fit correctly and they won’t have to worry about stretching out their partner’s clothing. Often I recommend Suddenly Fem. Their clothes are designed for men but are quite girlie. Buying online is perfect for guys who are too nervous to buy clothes in person. Victoria’s Secret is by far the most popular store amongst my crossdressing and sissy clients.
Some clients borrow more-some use their partner’s dildos. I try to discourage this. There’s just no way of knowing if they’re going to clean it properly afterward. He’s fucking his ass with it while talking to me and then later his wife will use it on herself. It makes the hypochondriac in me squirm. I always remind them to wash it. I try to make it sound sexy by telling them to imagine that they’re washing up their lover’s cock so I don’t come across as lecturing.
Really though it’s better for them to have their own toys. They can get the length and width they want. They can get a toy that vibrates if they like. And it’s better for their anal health. (That sounds funny but it’s true.) I’ve had more than one client who insisted on fucking himself with a random kitchen implement only to end up with a bloody rectum.
Buying their own toys shows acceptance of their kink. In a way it’s like coming out of the kink closet, even if only to themselves. I tell my clients to treat themselves to new panties or a new pair of heels. It feels good to pamper yourself I tell them.
If they continue to borrow their partners clothes or toys I regularly suggest being careful. It’s easy for them to get careless and not put the heels back in the right place. The Fantastic Foot Slut assures me his wife doesn’t notice that some of her lingerie is stretched out. I’m not so sure.
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Sometimes the calls all come in at once. The phone was quiet all day. Tonight Mr. Radical made some delicious chicken soup for dinner. As I took my first bite the phone rang.
Three calls later I’m still quietly eating my soup. I’ve been employing my “mmm” technique while I put a spoonful in my mouth.
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From this gallery. This looks like it was a fun shoot. There’s several good visual puns.
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If you liked Buy Nothing Day you might like Buy Nothing Christmas. I think it’s a better holiday.
By the time December 25th rolls around the Christmas music in every damn building I enter has driven me crazy. Jingle Bells at the bank?!? Why? And the fake cinnamon that’s pumped into the stores. Blech!
Burned out on the seemingly endless holiday decorations? Check out the Christmas Resistance page or the Buy Nothing Christmas site for some alternatives.
Posted by Vixen as Activism at 11:25 PM CST
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Sera Miles is organizing a New Mexico event for this year’s International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers. From her site:
“International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers: Albuquerque Event
December 17th, 7:30-9:30pm
Location: New Mexico AIDS Services
625 Truman St NE
Albuquerque, NM 87110
Join us for:A Candle Lighting Ceremony for the Women Murdered and Buried on the West Mesa:
* Victoria Chavez
* Monica Candelaria
* Veronica Romero
* Cinnamon Elks
* Julie Nieto
* Doreen Marquez
* Michelle Valdez (+ her four month old fetus)
* Syllannia Edwards
* Virginia Cloven
* Evelyn Salazar
* 1 as yet unidentified victim
The killer remains at large.
The Albuquerque Police Department’s Web site covers this case here. The killer remains at large.
It’s chilling to look at the ABQ story linked above. Seeing their photos speaks volumes about the importance of International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers.
A discussion on violence against transgendered sex workers in Nob Hill and surrounding areas
A discussion on historical relationship between the leather/kink community and the sex work community.
Free HIV Testing
Organized by Sera Miles and Princess Frida. Please email [email protected] for more information.”
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Are you hosting an event for Dec. 17th? If so email me at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom and I will blog about it. More information about International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers can be found at SWOP’s site.
Posted by Vixen as Activism, Sex Workers at 9:35 PM CST
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“Are there any escorts in DC?”
-a new caller
“Sure. There’s tons of congressmen there.”
-me
Posted by Vixen as Quote Book at 11:20 PM CST
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From Towleroad:
Candy: First ‘Transversal Style’ Fashion Magazine Launches
“Luis Venegas, the Madrid-based editor of fashion and art publications including Fanzine 137, has launched his latest.
Called Candy, Venegas describes the publication as the first “Transversal Style” magazine: “the first fashion magazine ever completely dedicated to celebrating transvestism, transexuality, cross dressing and androgyny, in all its manifestations.”"
What a cool idea. There’s a short video of some of the Candy models in the story. Many of my clients would love this magazine.
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From Boing Boing:
Gay-bashing woman humiliated for wearing hideous skirt
“An angry loser (right) came to Syracuse University to make a fool of herself by spreading pathetic hatred and was treated to a happy mutant style stunt by this smiling student, named Chris Pesto (left).
I decided that because this woman thought it was okay to make me feel uncomfortable in my home, I would retaliate and make her feel just as uncomfortable, if not more.
This woman was wearing a ankle-length corduroy skirt, which, as we all know, is a fashion nono. So, in order to make her feel uncomfortable, I stood next to her and held a sign that said Corduroy skirts are a sin! I don’t think I have ever drawn so much attention in my life. SO many people asked to take a picture with me, I got laughs, high fives and there were the few that even cursed off the woman standing behind me.”"
I love that this guy stood up to homophobia in such a funny way. Sweet. In college I flunked French class because I cut class so much to heckle the crazy campus preacher. He would scream about the Bible to passing students. He called all the women whores and all the men were fags. Such a nutter.
But is a corduroy skirt really a fashion nono? My fashion is hippie style and I always thought they were groovy.
Thanks to reader Nanette for the tip!
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From Spiegel Online:
Prostitutes Offer Free Climate Summit Sex
“Copenhagen Mayor Ritt Bjerregaard sent postcards to city hotels warning summit guests not to patronize Danish sex workers during the upcoming conference. Now, the prostitutes have struck back, offering free sex to anyone who produces one of the warnings.
Copenhagen’s city council in conjunction with Lord Mayor Ritt Bjerregaard sent postcards out to 160 Copenhagen hotels urging COP15 guests and delegates to ‘Be sustainable - don’t buy sex’.
“Dear hotel owner, we would like to urge you not to arrange contacts between hotel guests and prostitutes,” the approach to hotels says.
Now, Copenhagen prostitutes are up in arms, saying that the council has no business meddling in their affairs. They have now offered free sex to anyone who can produce one of the offending postcards and their COP15 identity card, according to the Web site avisen.dk”
I blogged about this over at the $pread blog. Here’s what I said:
“Prostitution is legal there so these postcards are completely out of line. Clever move for the sex workers.
And how is prostitution not sustainable? That makes no sense. It’s not like the prostitutes have disposable vaginas. They can be reused so if anything prostitution is a renewable resource.
Why does a story about prostitution use a picture that apparently shows strippers? No idea.”
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From the Business Insider:
Former SAC Capital Employee Details Forced Oral Sex, Hormone Use, Sodomy, And Cross Dressing
“Today, we wrote about how Steven Cohen’s SAC Capital may be the next big FBI insider trading target, partially stemming from ties to the Galleon hedge fund case.
SAC is also in the news because of recently unsealed court documents (below, via Reuters) regarding former SAC analyst Andrew Tong. The documents add shocking details to already reported allegations of extreme sexual harassment at SAC.
This story has scanned pics of the documents.
From CNBC:
Details Emerge in SAC Capital Sex Harassment Case
“Sexual harassment cases are nothing new on Wall Street, but CNBC has uncovered new details of one of the most salacious cases to hit a big trading house in a long time.
The case involves a sexual harassment lawsuit filed by a Andrew Z. Tong, a former junior trader at SAC Capital, the powerful Greenwich, Conn., hedge fund, against one of SAC’s top producers, a trader named Ping Jiang.
A New York State judge has sealed the case and sent the lawsuit into arbitration, where both sides would battle it out in private.”
(snip)
The judge said he sealed the details of Tong’s allegations contained in the lawsuit because it is not in the public interest to disclose the salacious nature of the complaints. CNBC has learned the suit includes the following allegations made by Tong against Jiang:
* After being hired at SAC, Tong alleges that Jiang came to him and told him he had a trading method in which his traders must not be too aggressive; that traders must be more effeminate and to do so, he directed Tong to begin taking female hormones.
* Tong says he then took the female hormones that he bought on the black market.
* Tong then alleges he suffered emotional and physical distress. The hormones, he says, caused him to begin wearing women’s clothes. He also could not perform sexually with his wife, who wanted to have a baby.
* Tong says the sexual harassment included sexual relations between the two men.”
There’s a short video about this in the CNBC link. The first story is the most recent, the second is from 2007.
The accusations sound like some of my calls.
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I’m sick with either a cold or a light flu this week. To sooth my throat I’ve been taking Granny’s Flu Remedy once a day.
Who’s Granny? When Mr. Radical and I first lived together we had a roommate named T. His grandmother was quite a character. T’s family was quite extended and she gave her remedy to all.
One time she taught me how to make it. It’s pretty simple.
Mix together:
1/3 honey
1/3 lemon juice
1/3 rum
I asked her for more specifics-1/3 of what? A cup? A tablespoon? Granny winked at me and told me I should fill up a cup with a third of each. How sick I was would determine the size of the cup. She was such a pistol. I hope I’m that spunky when I get old.
Granny’s Flu Remedy works great too. The honey soothes the throat, the lemon juices supplies Vitamin C and the rum makes you not care that you’re sick. It tastes best when warm.
My cup above is a twist on her recipe. I couldn’t find rum or lemon juice so I worked with what I had. I mixed 1/3 honey, 1/3 lime juice and 1/3 whiskey.
It did the trick. Now if only there was a drink to stop the running faucet that is currently my nose…
Posted by Vixen as Musings at 10:22 PM CST
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Jackie Adshead’s Queyntes art got a fall write up in Jade magazine. Good for her! She links to a pdf version through her website:
The Amazing Fantasy Fannies of Jackie Adshead
“As an Erotic Artist, Jackie Adshead has always felt that it is important to create art with hidden or humorous undertones. She loves her artwork to have an instant rapport - one that people can strongly relate to and which brings out the sensuality that appeals to a large extent to women. With this aim in mind, she has proudly started a project that explores this to the full.
And since she believes a piece of art should try to convey some form of message on more than one level she wanted to create a conversation piece that also contained the ultimate delicious private joke!
So this is the underlying thought behind her ‘Fantasy Fannies’ collection of paintings; a celebration of womanhood being bright, vibrant and colourful abstracts of their most innermost secret places.”
She’s started a new theme-Tarses. It’s an Old English word for male genitals. Jackie says “They are the ultimate intimate male portrait, fun and innovative, masculine and powerful.”
After reading the article I thought of the wedding I’m planning on attending next year. These would make clever wedding presents. I haven’t met the groom yet so asking for a picture of his penis feels a little awkward.
I’ve blogged about Jackie before here.
Posted by Vixen as Sexy Sensations at 1:42 AM CST
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From this gallery. Sweet.
Posted by Vixen as Sexy Sensations at 6:50 PM CST
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From the Worlds AIDS Day site:
“We’ve developed all sorts of materials (posters & leaflets, badges & balloons…) which feature the theme of HIV: Reality and the international HIV symbol - the red ribbon. You can help shape attitudes and improve public understanding of HIV by ordering our posters and leaflets (or our t-shirts!) and making them available wherever you are. 100% of the profits we make from sales go to our charitable work - we’ve raised nearly £250,000 this way over the past few years. You can find out what’s on offer and place your order here”
There’s a lot to explore on their site. Another one covering this event is the World AIDS Campaign site.
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AIDS is not a popular topic for PSO calls. When clients want to talk about safe sex, AIDS is grouped into STDs or the vague phrase “staying safe”.
Most of my clients’ slut adventures only happen in Erectionland. There are no sexual diseases in that paradise. Condoms only come into play for humiliation purposes. In a fantasy I’ll fuck a guy and then pour the full condom into my slave’s mouth forcing him to drink it.
Some of my callers like to pretend their Erectionland adventures are real. One guy, I’ll call him Super Slut, is a perfect example. SS likes to call me up and tell me about his most recent fuck fests. In his tales he’s always the star and everyone he encounters wants to fuck him. I play along, pretending to believe him and pretending to be turned on by his antics.
SS is a huge fan of cum. Much of the call is spent on the cum details-how it looked, how it tasted, where on his body it was squirted. He says he hates condoms because they block access to the gism. But he tries to present a believable fantasy.
Often when he starts a story he’ll assure me that the guy “told me he was clean so it was ok”. Sometimes his imaginary girlfriends go on the prowl and bring him back studs to fuck. “They always make sure that the guys are clean before they bring them back.”
We both know that just because people say they’re clean it doesn’t mean they are. But I play along and he tells me about their cocks which are always long and thick. I find it interesting that in this day of safe sex and STD awareness that he, and many of my clients, create a safe sex/STD free portion of their fantasy.
I have a handful of clients that actually have a lot of one time only/casual sex. When they can escape from their heterosexual, often married with children lives they sneak off to glory holes or arrange a motel meetup on some gay hook up site.
How do I know these men are actually doing it in reality and not Erectionland? Often it’s the details. Erectionland stories are always perfect-every cock is long and thick and the sex is porn quality. Reality rendezvous often have those little nuggets of truth-nervous laughter, awkward first kisses, occasional guilt and failed erections.
These clients overwhelmingly practice unsafe sex. They justify it to me in different ways. They tell me it’s ok because they only had their dick sucked, they spit the cum out instead of swallowing, they got fucked bareback but told the guy to pull out before cumming or they only sucked a cock instead of getting fucked. I’ve heard all sorts of reasoning.
While it’s true that certain sex acts are more risky than others unsafe sex is just that-unsafe. When asked my opinion I always talk about safe sex. But I only do it once. I figure they’re not calling me for a lecture. They’re grown men and it’s their responsibility to take care of their health, not mine.
Nonetheless, I feel like I should say something. I give a little safe sex speech which admittedly dulls the call. Condoms are always mentioned as is getting tested. If I think I can mention the client’s wife without freaking him out I’ll point out that he could pass something on to her. (Often the wife is strictly off limits on calls.) I like to finish with a cute giggle and a “but I’ll know you’ll be safe” comment to lighten back up the mood.
Do they start practicing safe casual sex because of my little talk? I don’t know but I certainly hope I have an effect.
Posted by Vixen as PSO Confessions, Activism at 11:25 PM CST
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