The first in my Vixen Invites series is Sapphire the Elegant Slut, from Elegant Smut. Her tagline reads “Tales of fabulous, forty-year-old fuckery. From MILF to BDSM, slutty to just plain sexy — Sapphire the Elegant Slut reveals all…” and it describes her writing well. Fans of the Sugasm will recognize her name since her blog often made the top three and editor’s choice.
Someone asked me why it is that I describe my Dom as the most wonderful and amazing person, and what could they do to have their sub speak of them in such glowing terms.
How does one answer such a question?
Tie me up?
Tie me down?
Restrain me, and tease me?
Tie Karada bikinis around my upper half?
(Then yank the rope so that I feel a jolt of electricity directly to my cunt?)
Beat me?
Flog me?
Know which inflection of “Ow” means “rub lavender oil gently into my skin”?
(And which one means “hit me again, harder!”)
Set my senses afire with electic shocks of the natural and electrode-induced variety?
Dance gummy bears all over my body, softly licking them up as you go?
Stand naked before me in cowboy boots?
(Then snap special private photographic images of me, and you in your boots for later?)
Fall in love with me at first “sight”?
Listen to me?
Hear what I answer?
Care for me?
Look out for me?
Protect me from those who would do me harm?
Send me poetry daily?
Love me?
Be proud to know me?
Be proud of me?
Love me more?
The answer is, of course, all of the above. And oh… so much more.
Since the Sugasm is on hiatus I’ve been thinking of new ways to feature some fellow bloggers. I’m starting a new feature on my blog. Vixen Invites will be a new series featuring-well, maybe you!
I’ve already sent out some invites and will send out more soon.
If you’d like to be featured on my blog write up a short piece that would fit with my theme of “porn, peace, politics”. Want to write up a feisty political rant but it wouldn’t fit on your erotica blog? Or maybe you have a steamy fantasy you’d like to share but it would seem out of place on your site?
Your post will appear on my blog but you’re welcome to post it on your own as well. I would like a link back to my site.
Interested? Send me an email with a post idea to radicalvixenatgmaildotcom
I found out about this through Leather Yenta’stweet yesterday. (Twitter used for activism? Woot!)
From John’s site: Imitator Sues Me to Overturn Copyrights: Please Help Defend My Art
“I need your help. My original art has been copied by a manufacturer who is now suing me in federal court to overturn my existing copyrights and continue making knockoffs. I have a strong case, a great lawyer and believe that if I can continue to defend myself, the case will be resolved in my favor. If I run out of funds before we reach trial, a default judgment would be issued against me and could put me out of business. I don’t believe my opponent can win this case in court and I don’t believe he really intends to try. I believe his goal is to use strong-arm litigation tactics to force me to keep spending money or risk losing my copyrights — not by true adjudication, but by default if he is able to outspend me.
Defend Art: The First 24 Hours
“I want to thank you not only for your financial support, but more importantly, your emotional and moral encouragement during this time. This has been a tough year and the last couple days are the first time I’ve felt encouraged in a long time. By assisting in funding our fight in this lawsuit, you are not only helping our case, but showing support of all artists struggling with similar battles.
The most important thing I have to tell you today is this:
In my first appeal for help I wrote: “If you have a blog, please write a post and link to this page. Feel free to quote as much of this post as you like or to write about it in your own words. It is important to stick to the facts and to avoid derogatory language.”
It is very important for all of us to take the ethical high ground in this issue and not to bully, threaten or malign the other side. I know better than anyone that this is an emotional issue for artists but don’t make us look bad as a group by being hateful. Lets tell the story sticking to the facts. Let’s raise awareness of the issues without resorting to name calling or other defamatory statements. The facts should be sufficient. By keeping it clean, it makes us look like the creative professionals we are.
(snip)
I hope to use what I’ve learned to educate other artists about their rights, and how they can best protect their own creations from falling prey to a similar situation. Please pass my message on, not only in support of my case, but in support of all artists.
I have registered the domain defendart.org and when this is over, I hope to set up a foundation to help other artists in need of legal assistance. Any money I raise that is not eaten up by court costs will be used for this purpose. Currently the only legal aid groups for artists that I have found operate only within the boundaries of each state. I can’t find a national organization. In my state, Michigan, the legal program for artists was closed due to lack of funding. It’s obvious from the stories I’ve heard on Twitter, in email, on forums and elsewhere that we need something like this and I believe that artists could work together to make it happen.
Because that’s what artists do, actually: when they see something that should exist but doesn’t, they build it.
Now that I see how many of us there are and how incredibly we can pull together I have a larger vision for #defendart. I think there’s a way to raise funds that can protect artists when other options fail them.”
I’ve blogged about John before; I like him and his artwork. I have not one but two of his tire paddles and they’re some of my favorite, and most wicked, toys. He also made a mosaic table based on a pic of me! He’s always been friendly to chat with and his art is super groovy.
You can see his passion in his art. I can’t believe this company would copy his designs and then sue him!?! Sure there’s being inspired by artwork. But then I’d think you’d make something and give it your own unique twist. That’s what I do when I’m inspired by someone’s art.
I’m supporting him and hope some of you will too. You can do so by clicking the widget up top. I’m getting one of his Fire Imp Sculptures with my donation. John says he’ll ship them out by Xmas. The sculpture I’ll be getting will make a perfect Yule present. It’s a win-win!
From Tasty Trixie: A Different Kind of Stroke
“Normally when you hear “camgirl” and “stroke” you think of masturbation. Unfortunately our online pal UndressJess experienced a different kind of stroke yesterday.
Some of us who follow her twitter account noticed a couple of really jumbled tweets from her, plus one saying she was on her way to the hospital. I finally got ahold of her on her cell phone this afternoon; she is in the hospital BECAUSE SHE HAD A STROKE.”
I’ve been seeing some blog posts and tweets about Undress Jess and thought I’d take part. There’s a ChipIn page for her medical expenses here if you want to donate. It warms my heart to see the sex worker community rally around one of our own. Updates are getting posted in the comments section in the Tasty Trixie’s original post.
Though Jess’s problem is health related this makes me think we should do some sort of fundraising for sex workers this coming Dec. 17th. Ideas?
I finished it last night and wow-I loved this book! Laura S. Scott does a good job mixing her research data and personal stories to make a compelling read. It was a pleasure to find out I had so much in common with other childfree people.
Scott categorizes the childless into different catagories. Apparently I’m an “early articulator”. As a young girl I knew I’d never have children. I never liked baby dolls. It felt like I was being forced to play mommy which felt wrong. (Barbie was different-she was an adult, dated Ken, fought the evil Osmond dolls and never had a baby.)
Scott had four categories for her study:
“Early articulators are those who make the decision early in their lives, generally without influence from a significant other.
Acquiescers are those who make the decision to remain childless primarily because their partner wanted to be childfree.
Postponers are those who delayed having a family and ultimately decided they didnt want kids.
Undecided are those who are still in the decision-making process.”
I was surprised by how many of the childfree heard the same myths as I did. “You’ll change your mind when you get older.” “It’s different when they’re your own kids.” “You’re selfish.” Her chapter Marginal and Misunderstood challenges the myths of the childfree life and was one of my favorite chapters.
Another outstanding chapter is Eighteen Reasons (and More) Why We Don’t Have Kids. I found myself agreeing with many of her “Motive Statements” such as “I love our life, our relationship, as it is, and having a child won’t enhance it” and “I value freedom and independence”.
Scott gives a realistic outline on the work that needs to be done for the childfree. Too many doctors are hesitant to provide sterilization to childless couples. I wrote about our frustrating journey towards Mr. Radical’s vascetomy here. There’s not nearly enough childfree role models in our culture. Family and friends still pressure couples to have children, ignoring the couples stated preference. Mr. Radical’s grandmother used to send me birthday cards featuring babies because we hadn’t popped out a grandchild yet. When his sister had kids the pressure finally eased up. Scott’s chapter A Place At The Table outlines ways the childfree can be more accepted into society.
One downside of the study was the lack of diversity. This isn’t Scott’s fault. She worked with the participants she had. But I’d like to hear perspectives from gay couples, those that choose to remain single, those in polyamorous relationships, people with non-traditional religions and atheists.
Hopefully her book and study will inspire more research.
Who’d like this book? Certainly the childfree. Amongst my friends and family Mr. Radical and I are definitely in the minority. It was a joy to read about other childfree people and know that there’s others taking this path. If you’re debating whether or not to have children this book would give you a good perspective on the childfree life.
I’m not sure this book will entertain parents. Certainly you won’t find me picking up books on parenting so why would a parent read this one? Maybe you’re like me and enjoy reading about sociological studies. Or maybe you’re curious about the motivations of the childfree. Scott goes out of her way to be respectful to those with children. She makes the point that many websites get nasty about parents. I’ll fess up that I throw the term “breeder” around when parents piss me off. But her book is very courteous to parents so you won’t be insulted if you read it and have kids of your own.
I definitely recommend this book! Want to know more about the childfree lifestyle? You can also check out Scott’s Childless by Choice Project.
From CNN: Obama: Nobel Peace Prize is ‘call to action’
“President Obama said Friday that he was “surprised and deeply humbled” by the decision of the Norwegian Nobel Committee to award him the 2009 Nobel Peace Prize.
The committee said it honored Obama for his “extraordinary efforts to strengthen international diplomacy and cooperation between peoples.”
Obama said he viewed the decision less as a recognition of his own accomplishments and more as “a call to action.”
The decision appeared to catch most observers by surprise. Nominations for the prize had to be postmarked by February 1, only 12 days after Obama took office. The committee sent out its solicitation for nominations last September, two months before Obama was elected president.
I want to highlight a few points.
First off, I’m all for rewarding people worthy of recognition. But what could any president possibly due in twelve days worthy of a Nobel Peace Prize nomination? Maybe if he had ended the Afghanistan or Iraq war but those wars are, sadly, still ongoing.
Next up, Obama delayed his meeting with the Dalai Lama, Nobel prize winner himself, to placate China.
From the Washington Post: Obama’s Meeting With the Dalai Lama Is Delayed
“In an attempt to gain favor with China, the United States pressured Tibetan representatives to postpone a meeting between the Dalai Lama and President Obama until after Obama’s summit with his Chinese counterpart, Hu Jintao, scheduled for next month, according to diplomats, government officials and other sources familiar with the talks.
For the first time since 1991, the Tibetan spiritual leader will visit Washington this week and not meet with the president. Since 1991, he has been here 10 times. Most times the meetings have been “drop-in” visits at the White House. The last time he was here, in 2007, however, George W. Bush became the first sitting president to meet with him publicly, at a ceremony at the Capitol in which he awarded the Dalai Lama the Congressional Gold Medal, Congress’s highest civilian award.”
I was checking out Nancy Farmer’s Fetish Dollies site for updates. While there I saw that she has a new site-Fornicating Fairies. Naughty fairies? I like it!
Her “tamer” art work can be seen here. I’m a fan. From her site:
“Belligerent demons, sullen fairies, twisted fairytales and other curious monsters - dark, whimsical, decadent contemporary art, all with a satirical edge and a twist of humour.”
Detectives launched a murder inquiry after Andrea Waddell’s body was found in a burned-out flat in Brighton, on Thursday night. She had been strangled.
(snip)
Yesterday, a Sussex Police spokeswoman said a 42-year-old man from Brighton, arrested on Saturday night in connection with the 29-year-old’s murder was in custody.”
Interestingly the article doesn’t mention details about her being drug free like the following one does.
Andrea Waddell’s body was discovered by firefighters called to tackle a blaze at the address.
(snip)
Fire crews were called to her flat at 11.40pm. They made their way into the first-floor apartment at the back of the building, where they discovered the dead woman’s body.
A post mortem examination revealed she had been strangled.
Describing Andrea, who grew up in Reading, Detective Chief Inspector Adam Hibbert, who is leading the investigation, said: ‘Andrea was a sociable girl who was well known in Brighton but she led a relatively private life. She was not known to drink, smoke, or do drugs.”
A minor point yes, but with all the articles that mentioned sexual and drug abuse it’s an important point.
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From the Cleveland Leader: 22-year-old Akron Stripper Given 1 Year Probation for Stiletto Stabbing
“Chetania Davis, the Akron exotic dancer who made headlines when she stabbed a fellow dancer with her stiletto shoe, has made a plea deal with prosecutors and will serve one year on probation. The 22 year old is eight months pregnant and had faced a felony assault charge before agreeing to plead guilty to a misdemeanor today.”
I missed this news story when the attacked happened. Searching around I found a few more details.
From CBS News: Exotic Dancer Gets Probation In Stiletto Stabbing
“Prosecutors say Davis used the heel to stab her 52-year-old co-worker several times April 17 in the club dressing room, causing wounds that required seven staples. It was the older woman’s first day on the job.
Police had said she was attacked because Davis didn’t think the club needed more dancers.”
That’s pretty damn harsh. We sex workers are supposed to stick together!
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From CNN: All-male college cracks down on cross-dressing
“An all-male college in Atlanta, Georgia, has banned the wearing of women’s clothes, makeup, high heels and purses as part of a new crackdown on what the institution calls inappropriate attire.
No dress-wearing is part of a larger dress code launched this week that Morehouse College is calling its “Appropriate Attire Policy.”
(snip)
The dress-wearing ban is aimed at a small part of the private college’s 2,700-member student body, said Dr. William Bynum, vice president for Student Services.
“We are talking about five students who are living a gay lifestyle that is leading them to dress a way we do not expect in Morehouse men,” he said.”
Doesn’t it seem overeactive for Morehouse to create this ban because of only five students? And what’s up with that CNN reporter? He’s not even trying to be unbiased.
From Komo News: Seattle enrolls prostitute patrons in ‘John School’
“Anyone who pays for a prostitute within city limits end up at the head of the class in “John School,” a new diversion program the city launched to stop the sex-worker trade.
Seattle’s streets offer a desperate life for prostitutes. The lure of easy money is too often a trap.”
Ok, first off not all prostitutes work the streets.
“The program teaches men about the dangers prostitution poses. The so-called “Johns” pay $150 for a one-day session.”
The cynic in me thinks that these “john schools” are a convenient way for the city to drum up money in this down economy.
“She talks about really the devastating impact on her,” said Terri Kimball. “She also debunks some of the myths that Johns may have — that she’s doing it because she enjoys it, she’s doing it because she makes a lot of money at it, that it’s basically the victimless crime.”
This is an ironic quote because the entire premise of john school’s seems to be to reinforce prostitute myths.
For instance, what about male prostitutes? So far the only stories about john schools portray the prostitutes as women. And what about the prostitutes that weren’t molested or do drugs or don’t have pimps?
“And upon completion of the class, first-time Johns can walk away with a clean record.”
I wonder if the prostitute leading the class does it so she can walk away with a clean record as well.
From Newsy: Diagnosing Prostitution
“John schools are springing up around the country to reform first-time offending men, and cut down on demand for prostitutes. But is that the right tactic?”
This is a video news site that presents different sides to a story. The video about john schools was refreshing. They quoted Walnet.org, a site I hadn’t heard of before. Looking through it I found a 1996 link about john schools. I hadn’t realized they’d been around so long. A memo from the Sex Workers Alliance of Vancouver gives many points arguing against the schools.
Thanks to reader Rosa for the video tip! Know about a story that would fit on this blog? Send me an email to radicalvixenatgmaildotcom
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I wasn’t sure how I’d like it. I already knew I was childfree so what would I get out of the book?
