“The holy power of a woman is urination.”
-This client has given me many great quotes.

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Found via Poe News:
Jurors in Tampa to decide; What is obscene?
“A federal jury will soon have the unusual task of deciding what Tampa Bay residents consider obscene, and whether a Hollywood producer’s violent pornographic films are unacceptable to the local community.

They may spend an entire day watching porn to do it.

A judge will rule today on just how much pornography will be displayed in the courtroom as prosecutors present evidence against Paul F. Little of Altadena, Calif., and his company, MaxWorld Entertainment Inc. ”

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Some thoughts. I’m annoyed that the “Justice Department’s Child Exploitation and Obscenity Section” is one section. These two should be two separate departments. Yes child exploitation can be obscene but often obscenity cases have nothing to do with children despite the article pointing out that “Adult actresses in the films are often made up to look like young girls”.

One part of the Miller test that rubs me the wrong way is the part where the work must “be patently offensive by community standards”. Cases like this can purposely be tried in more sexually conservative areas to assure an obscenity convention.

Could this be the case with the Hardcore Trial? Little “is on trial in the Middle District of Florida because prosecutors purchased the DVDs from Little’s Internet Web site and had them sent to a Tampa post office box.” Certainly convenient from the prosecution’s standpoint.

Posted by Vixen as News, Sex Workers at 11:29 PM CDT

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Lina from Uncool sent me this notice from Adult Blog Hub:
“If you are not aware already, Adult Blog Hub is a UK run and hosted site. This means that we are subject to UK law. In the last few weeks new laws have been passed that will, by the end of the year, make it illegal to possess images of what are deemed to be “extreme” pornography. The exact definition of this has been the cause of great debate within the adult world, both online and off.

Sadly the law has been drafted very badly making the definition of “extreme” almost impossible to accurately interpret. See here for details – http://www.backlash-uk.org.uk/.

In light of these changes we have made a decision. Despite the law not affecting us directly, as we do not possess or host images that might be thought of as “extreme”, some of our members do feature them. While the law would not make linking to a site containing such images a criminal offence we do not wish to be seen to be encouraging the propagation of these images.

In future please do not add posts to ABH if they contain links to or images from any of the following sites:

http://www.realspankinginstitute.com
http://www.girls-boarding-school.com
http://spankcamp.com/
http://www.lupus-spanking.com

We understand that in fact the vast majority of even these images on the aforementioned sites do not contravene the law with regards to consent etc.

As a guide, we may have to ask members not to link to posts containing similar images from other sites. Pink or read bottoms are OK, for example, but black and blue bottoms, skin broken from spankings/paddlings or canings is not. Imagery depicting rape (even if it’s obviously staged), sex with animals or sex with models who appear to be under-age is also a no-no, as it has always been on ABH.

We do not condone the law, we see it as a step towards censorship and a restriction on freedom of expression. However we need to be seen to be making efforts to ensure we do not link to some previously legal images. Thank you for your understanding.”

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It’s weird seeing just how many people and groups are being affected by this UK law. Don’t know what this is about? You can read more on Backlash’s page. The above image comes from their site.

Posted by Vixen as News, Activism at 10:26 PM CDT

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I’ve been one busy sex worker. While the phone ringing seemingly nonstop is great for me it’s not so great for the blog. I should be back tomorrow.

My hands are worn out from note taking and knitting on calls. Those are always indications I’ve been swamped.

Posted by Vixen as Musings at 10:57 PM CDT

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The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #134? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Giving a Damn
“Something happened somewhere along the way, though. I began to care.”

Catalina loves “Better Sex Through Yoga”
“I’ve tried a lot of things, as you can imagine, but there were even a few new things in there for me!”

Reality Check: Dealing With Assholes
“Being able to decline a call is great but bills still need to be paid.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank

Editor’s Choice
The Secret Lives of Plants

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Julia S. courtesy of Badgirls Hotbox.

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I just read today that Utah Phillips died Friday. What a wonderful man. It’s sad news. Though Utah had such an amazing life. More sad for his family and fans.

Don’t know Utah?

From his website:
Folksinger, Storyteller, Railroad Tramp Utah Phillips Dead at 73
“Utah Phillips, a seminal figure in American folk music who performed extensively and tirelessly for audiences on two continents for 38 years, died Friday of congestive heart failure in Nevada City, California a small town in the Sierra Nevada mountains where he lived for the last 21 years with his wife, Joanna Robinson, a freelance editor.”

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“He made me understand that music must be more than cotton candy for the ears,” said John McCutcheon, a nationally-known folksinger and close friend.

In the creation of his performing persona and work, Phillips drew from influences as diverse as Borscht Belt comedian Myron Cohen, folksingers Woody Guthrie and Pete Seeger, and Country stars Hank Williams and T. Texas Tyler.”

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“Over the span of the nearly four decades that followed, Phillips worked in what he referred to as “the Trade,” developing an audience of hundreds of thousands and performing in large and small cities throughout the United States, Canada, and Europe. His performing partners included Rosalie Sorrels, Kate Wolf, John McCutcheon and Ani DiFranco.”

Utah is one of my favorite musicians. Goddess I love his music. It sounds cliched to say an album changed one’s life but his album We Have Fed You All a Thousand Years heavily influenced me. I learned so much history-Mother Jones, Joe Hill, the war resisters of WWI, the importance of unions…I could go on and on.

But I learned more than history. I first listened to this album during a time in my life where I was questioning things. Questioning the status quo, questioning authority-that sort of thing. Utah’s story taught me to learn from history, to research more, to form my own opinions. I was already doing this but I started doing it on a deeper level.

Utah is entertaining, educational and inspiring. If only more people knew of him. Hell, he should be in the Rock ‘n Roll Hall of Fame. He is one of the best musicians I’ve ever listened to. (Can you tell that I love his work?)

You can buy his music here. I can’t recommend him enough!

Posted by Vixen as News, Activism at 10:43 PM CDT

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This picture (from this gallery) looks cool but that pose looks uncomfortable.

Posted by Vixen as Sexy Sensations at 11:37 PM CDT

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I got a lot of responses to my post Reality Check: Asshole Clients. The most common question was-How do you deal with asshole clients? Through the years I’ve come up with several techniques. While the following tips are meant for PSOs many can be adapted to different aspects of sex work.

First off I suggest you work with a service that lets you decline calls or end calls early without punishment. True, this one isn’t a tip for dealing with assholes. But it’s still an important one. Having the ability to back out of a bad call is essential for a PSO if she wants to avoid burnout.

Being able to decline a call is great but bills still need to be paid. On to the tips:

-Snuggle your pussy
If you’re a cat owner snuggle up with your furball. My cat has no idea how many calls he’s helped me through. A warm snuggly kitty in my lap puts me at ease while a caller calls me a bitch or ridicules the fantasy I’m telling him. Added bonus-You can use my favorite PSO line- “I’m petting my pussy right now.”

-Knit
I know. I recommend knitting on all calls. But knitting on asshole calls is great. The guy can be ridiculing your breast size and you’re overjoyed because you just turned the heel of your first sock. Caution: Extremely stressful calls will effect your gauge so make sure to work on a project that’s forgiving of fluctuations in your knitting.

-Do quiet household chores
Putting away laundry is probably the best chore to do on the phone. It’s quiet and can relax your nerves on a stressful call.

-Give a lackluster or downright bad call
Use this one Very Sparingly! I’ve only done this one a few times. You have to be careful not to get caught. How to give a lame call? It’s hard to say since it has to be tailored to the individual. But seasoned PSOs will know what I’m talking about here. Some examples could be not moaning loud enough, not answering a question promptly or forgetting to hit mute while you cough or blow your nose.

I don’t recommend this tip that highly. The guy is paying for call with you after all. Think of this one as a last resort tip. If he’s being verbally abusive and you’ll get in trouble for dumping him try giving a lackluster call. He may even cum at the end of the call during it. That’s great. The goal here is to satisfy him enough that he doesn’t complain but not enough that he wants to call you back.

-Give an outstanding call
I know-this one contradicts the preceding tip right? Not necessarily. Sometimes giving an asshole client a stellar call is the best way to handle the situation. This works great on the guys that personally insult you. Make them crave you, make them addicted to you.

Telling you how to do that is hard. This is such a customized tactic it’s difficult to find examples. Again, seasoned PSOs will know what I mean. Getting a client hooked hard is an intuitive thing. Sometimes when I’m talking to a client I feel like my voice is entrapping him. It’s as if I can feel my words creating this sort of bondage around him. I’ll just sense that he needs me. (This isn’t just for asshole clients. I get that vibe when I talk to the Fabulous Foot Slut and not only do I like him, he’s one of my best clients.)

A bonus to this tip is giving a stellar call sometimes turns an asshole client into a great client. This has happened to me numerous times. The call will start out frustrating. My sex worker intuition says to give a stellar call so I do. The next time the guy calls his attitude is completely different and I never think of him as an asshole again. He gets more good calls from me and I get a good client. It’s a win for both of us.

-Yoga
Yoga poses are great for releasing stress. After talking to a difficult client I like to do yoga. This releases all the tension that built up during the call. You can even do some stretches while on a call if you have a headset with a good mute button. I like to do neck rolls and leg stretches on stressful calls.

-Take a break after the call
Even a little five minute break can work wonders. There’s one client I talk to where I turn my phone off for the rest of the night after we talk. He’s not a bad client but he’s incredibly demanding. I have to constantly talk. If I take a break to plan my next words or even to take a drink of water he complains that I’m not talking and that I’m wasting his time. I can handle him but I find I need to decompress after we talk.

-Donate a portion of call to charity
This one feels great. A couple years ago I was talking to a guy that whole heartedly supported the Iraq war and thought Bush was doing a great job as president. He never wanted to debate, he just wanted to give his thoughts on the current political situation. Whenever I would voice my opinions he would brush me off as a “silly little girl” who was too young to know anything about how the world worked. This made my blood boil. During the fantasy part of the call he was pleasant enough so I wanted to keep him as a client. Every third or fourth call with him I would donate the money to anti-war organizations. It made me feel so much better. Suddenly his calls were stress free. Every time he’d go off about the liberal media distorting the truth about Iraqi I’d smile thinking about how he’d hate it if he knew I was donating to charities he in all likelihood hated.

-Look at pleasing pictures
There’s one client who likes constant orgasms. And not the quiet little sighs. No he wants the porn star, going for the AVN award for best scream, type of orgasms. After I do one he demands another. And another. And another. This doesn’t make him an asshole but the calls are a pain to do.

To make my orgasms sound real I look at pictures of pretty yarn online. When I see a picture of handspun, handpainted wool I naturally go OHHHHHHH!!!!! Saying Oh My God! I love it! I need it! Give it to me! is not really a stretch because yes I do want that yarn. If you’re not a freak for fiber like me perhaps looking at places you want to visit would do the trick. In the middle of winter I like to look at pictures of Hawaii. Looking at warm sunny beaches makes my Yes! Yes! Oh it feels so good! comments sound hot.

-Wine
Use this one sparingly. There’s no need to turn into a lush over an asshole client. If done in moderation the occasional glass of wine on a call is pleasant.

-Have sex worker friends
No one understands quite like a fellow sex worker. When I’ve had a frustrating call I like to talk to a sex worker friends. We’ll swap work stories and usually end up laughing over the situation. If you want to prevent burn out find some fellow workers you can talk to.

Reality Check Series:
Reality Check: Getting Sick
Reality Check: Lessons Learned From Clients
Reality Check: Eating Food
Reality Check: Handling Long Calls
Reality Check: Working On Christmas
Reality Check: Asshole Clients

Posted by Vixen as PSO Confessions at 10:35 PM CDT

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From the Free Speech Coalition:
“Today, the Free Speech Coalition released an analysis of the May 19th opinion, issued by the United States Supreme Court, in United States v. Michael Williams, a case involving the government’s efforts to suppress child pornography. FSC Board Member and First Amendment Lawyers Association National Chairperson, Reed Lee, authored the document that FSC distributed to its members Tuesday, May 20th.”

(snip)

“The analysis can be read by clicking here.”

Want to join the FSC? I recommend it! You can do so here.

Posted by Vixen as News at 11:11 PM CDT

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From Xbiz News:
Retailers, ACLU Sue to Stop Indiana ‘Explicit Materials’ Law
“A lawsuit to stop enforcement of a new Indiana law regarding “sexually explicit materials” was filed yesterday in U.S. District Court. Plaintiffs in the suit included the Indianapolis Museum of Art, The American Civil Liberties Union, The Association of American Publishers, Inc. and the National Association of Recording Merchandisers.

The law was signed March 13, and goes into effect July 1. It will require retailers to register with the state and pay a fee in order to sell “sexually explicit material.”"

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“Another plaintiff in the suit, Indianapolis general-interest bookstore Big Hat Books, sells no material defined as obscene under state law, but it does sell literature with content that might be deemed harmful to minors.

Big Hat Books earns more than half its revenue from children’s literature, and that business may dissolve if the independent book store is “labeled as a purveyor of sexually explicit materials,” the complaint states.”

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Wow is this one retarded law. I’m glad there’s a group fighting it. What most annoys me is how this law benefits the conservative politicians either way. If it goes into effect the politicians get to boast how they’re protecting the state’s children. If it is struck down they get to boast about how they are fighting against activist and liberal judges and how they need to be re-elected to keep fighting. Liberal politicians need to work this angle.

Posted by Vixen as News at 10:29 PM CDT

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The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #133? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Fuck The Pope.
“The Church would have you believe that abstinence should be sufficient.”

Good Boy
“Despite my outward appearance, I still felt sexy as hell knowing what was underneath those misleading garments.”

May Masturbation Challenge: Progress Report day 10
“At the Dee & Apollo household, it’s early on Day 10 of the May Masturbation Challenge. ”

Mr. Sugasm Himself (one from the vaults)
The US Constitution Erotic Coloring Book

Editor’s Choice
UK Criminal Justice Bill Clause 63 - but what is “extreme”? - A Beginners Guide

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Bali Hai-HNT courtesy of Blue-eyed Vixen.

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From NPR:
Polygamy Cafe Feeds the Hungry and Curious
“The Merry Wives Cafe, located in Hilldale, Utah, is owned and operated by polygamist group members with a sense of business, humor and public relations. The cafe opened last year to give locals and travelers a place to eat. The owners also opened it as a way to gently confront polygamy’s battered image. It is not immediately obvious that the cafe has any connection to polygamy, though to sharp diners, there are clues.”

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“Diners looking closely at the decades-old family portraits on the café walls will notice a common theme: a single patriarch, multiple wives and multitudes of kids.

And then there’s the café’s name and logo. “The Merry Wives” is borrowed from Shakespeare, and the logo depicts three cooks, all women and, presumably, plural wives.”

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The idea of multiple partner marriages doesn’t bother me. It does seem unfair that the Morman polygamists only have the one husband and many wives version. If they’re going to have that I think they should have the one wife and many husbands version as well.

From Reuters:
Icelandic museum offers long and short of male organ
“Hjartarson is founder and owner of the Icelandic Phallological Museum, which offers visitors from around the world a close-up look at the long and the short of the male reproductive organ.

His collection, which began in 1974 with a single bull’s penis that looked something like a riding crop, now boasts 261 preserved members from 90 species.”

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I wonder if the museum has a gift shop. Think of the cool postcards they could sell!

From CNN:
Woman pleads guilty in Spitzer probe
” Temeka Rachelle Lewis, who worked as a booking agent for the Emperor’s Club VIP, is the first defendant to admit guilt in the case that led to the resignation of New York’s crusading Democratic governor after just 14 months in office.

She made a brief court appearance in a plea bargain that obligates her to turn over records, testify before a grand jury, if asked, and answer any questions investigators may have about her role in arranging dates between Emperor’s Club working girls and the agency’s deep-pocketed clients.”

(snip)

“Prosecutors have refused to say whether they are contemplating charges against Spitzer, who was New York’s attorney general for eight years before he was elected governor.”

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I doubt Spitzer will get charged.

From the New York Times:
California Supreme Court Overturns Gay Marriage Ban
“The California Supreme Court overturned a voter-approved gay marriage ban Thursday in a ruling that would make the nation’s largest state the second one to allow gay and lesbian weddings.

The justices released the 4-3 decision, saying that domestic partnerships are not a good enough substitute for marriage in an opinion written by Chief Justice Ron George. Justices Joyce Kennard, Kathryn Werdegar and Carlos Moreno joined the majority.”

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This is the best news of the week!

Posted by Vixen as News at 11:13 PM CDT

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This picture (from this gallery) made me smile. I just want to use my mistress voice and order the model around. “Hump those flowers! Hump them!”

Posted by Vixen as Sexy Sensations at 11:39 PM CDT

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The first entry for my Fetish Fridays series was on sploshing. In my six years working the phones I’d never done a sploshing call. Last month this changed.

The call started out typically enough. At first Splosher Guy was a crossdrosser wanting to be turned into a cocksucking slut. We went into a fantasy where he was sucking off a group of black studs. In the middle of this he said a line that took me by surprise:

“So, you wanna pie me?”

I was positive I heard him wrong and asked him to repeat himself. He asked the question again. “Pie you?” I asked back not sure where this was going.

“Yeah, pie me. Like throw a cherry pie on my crotch.”

In a flash of insight I realized I had a sploshing call. I almost squealed with delight. Sploshing seems like one of those elusive fetishes that you don’t hear much about. I wanted to share my excitement over doing a new fetish but controlled the urge. If I let on my excitement over doing something new I probably would have weirded him out.

Instead I played it cool. I described throwing the cherry pie in detail, throwing in some whipped cream for flair. And we were off. He asked for blueberry pie, then pumpkin. After awhile he switched to raw eggs. He wanted me to smash them all over his body. For the climatic finish I had one of the black studs take the whipped cream bottle and shove it up SG’s ass. He came as I described the big black cock fucking him using the white whipped cream as lube.

It was a fascinating call. I felt like I learned so much from talking to SG. Sploshing isn’t my kink and I don’t fully understand it. It seems like a fun fetish but it seems so wasteful. There’s never any reference to even composting the leftovers. (that’s my granola munching Birkenstock wearing hippie side talking)

But maybe the wastefulness is part of the appeal? The sploshers are so abundant that they can “waste” food this way? I think that’s the appeal of financial domination. Or maybe it’s more childlike? The sploshers never got to play with their food as children so now as adults they want to?

What fascinates me most about sploshing is what makes food sexy. Pies are sexy but steaks are not. Raw eggs are sexy but hot dogs are not. Mind you I’ve only talked to one splosher. Maybe there’s some out there that only like hot dogs. But certain foods seem more splosher sexy-pies, cupcakes, pork and beans, mashed potatoes. Foods that are soft seem appropriate, as do foods that are liquidy.

SG liked our call and has called back several times. He’s an interesting client because he combines sploshing and domination. When researching this kink for my original Fetish Friday post all the sploshing pictures I found had an air of fun about them. The models were smiling most of the time and there seemed to be an air of lightheartedness in the play. With SG the sploshing is more about humiliation. During a call I sometimes grab his hair and rub his face in a plate of mashed potatoes. Or I tie him up, force his mouth open and pour olive oil down his throat.

No matter how many other foods we bring into the fantasy SG consistently goes back to the pies. After awhile my mind was going blank-I could only think of so many kinds of pies. To keep the call flowing I looked up pie recipes online. Suddenly I had a ton of desserts to throw onto his pussy-key lime, banana cream and pecan pie. He especially like the pecan pie because it’s a sticky one.

His favorite pie of late is one I came across by accident. Mr. Radical and I were out dining with friends recently. Looking over the restaurant’s desert menu I noticed a triple berry pie-blueberry, raspberry and boysenberries. I saved this one until the very end of a recent call. I described the berries in detail as I smashed it into his eager pussy. SG moaned and came.

Fetish Fridays
Fetish Fridays: Sploshing
Fetish Fridays: Robot Sex
Fetish Fridays: Humiliation
Fetish Fridays: Glory Holes
Fetish Fridays: Shoe Fetish
Fetish Fridays: Achoo!
Fetish Fridays: Tickle Fetish
Fetish Fridays: Doggy Boy
Fetish Fridays: Smoking Fetish
Fetish Fridays: Latex Love
Fetish Fridays: Furries
Fetish Fridays: Exhibitionism
Fetish Fridays: Chastity
Fetish Fridays: Pony Play
Fetish Fridays: Hirsutism

Posted by Vixen as PSO Confessions, Fetish Fridays at 11:21 PM CDT

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